I no good at flirting in real life.


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honeybee81 is offline honeybee81 Post #1  March 24,2010, 3:59pm
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I have a great example of this and I am kicking myself about this one…On St. Patrick’s Day I went to NYC with my friends (a group of 9 women). I was at the bar to order a drink and a very cute guy asked me for a beaded necklace (I was giving them out that night and when he asked I was down to ten). I teasingly said to him “well I was saving these for later tonight. You have do something for it” and pointed to my cheek. Yes he kissed me on the cheek but very lightly. Still teasing him “oh that was not worth a necklace”. He kissed me on the cheek again so I gave him a necklace. Then he said “I would kiss you anywhere you like.” This through me off a little because I realized he was interested in me so I said “my cheek is just fine” he said “ok, thanks for the necklace.” I went back to where my friends were. One of his friends was talking to me a few minutes later and said “he is good guy”. I was little embarrassed so I told his friend the name of the next bar we were going to and the usual spot we hang out in. I did not see him again that night.
Does anyone else feel they are no good at flirting in real life?
 
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I have a great example of this and I am kicking myself about this one…On St. Patrick’s Day I went to NYC with my friends (a group of 9 women). I was at the bar to order a drink and a very cute guy asked me for a beaded necklace (I was giving them out that night and when he asked I was down to ten). I teasingly said to him “well I was saving these for later tonight. You have do something for it” and pointed to my cheek. Yes he kissed me on the cheek but very lightly. Still teasing him “oh that was not worth a necklace”. He kissed me on the cheek again so I gave him a necklace. Then he said “I would kiss you anywhere you like.” This through me off a little because I realized he was interested in me so I said “my cheek is just fine” he said “ok, thanks for the necklace.” I went back to where my friends were. One of his friends was talking to me a few minutes later and said “he is good guy”. I was little embarrassed so I told his friend the name of the next bar we were going to and the usual spot we hang out in. I did not see him again that night.
Does anyone else feel they are no good at flirting in real life?
I will tell you, but you have to give me a necklace.
 
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It sounds to me you started out just fine... flirting is meant to get someone's attention. You succeeded in that! It's what happened after which is making you feel like you failed. It probably felt too fast for you so you got a little scared. Ok, so don't call yourself no good at it.

So, if there is a next time, where the initial flirt sparks some interest in the guy? Go up to him and talk to him a bit.
 
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I will tell you, but you have to give me a necklace.
lol...I have a few left over.
 
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honeybee81 wrote :
I have a great example of this and I am kicking myself about this one…On St. Patrick’s Day I went to NYC with my friends (a group of 9 women). I was at the bar to order a drink and a very cute guy asked me for a beaded necklace (I was giving them out that night and when he asked I was down to ten). I teasingly said to him “well I was saving these for later tonight. You have do something for it” and pointed to my cheek. Yes he kissed me on the cheek but very lightly. Still teasing him “oh that was not worth a necklace”. He kissed me on the cheek again so I gave him a necklace. Then he said “I would kiss you anywhere you like.” This through me off a little because I realized he was interested in me so I said “my cheek is just fine” he said “ok, thanks for the necklace.” I went back to where my friends were. One of his friends was talking to me a few minutes later and said “he is good guy”. I was little embarrassed so I told his friend the name of the next bar we were going to and the usual spot we hang out in. I did not see him again that night.
Does anyone else feel they are no good at flirting in real life?
That doesn't sound like bad flirting but just not realizing you were in a flirt at the time. You just need to learn how to recover from the stun.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
That doesn't sound like bad flirting but just not realizing you were in a flirt at the time. You just need to learn how to recover from the stun.
That was it I did not mean to flirt…oops!!! I was so embarrassed about my reaction I could not face him again. Will try to learn to recover from the stun. Mabe I will have better luck next time.
 
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honeybee81 wrote :
lol...I have a few left over.

Where do you have to be kissed for you to spill your guts and show yourself.

I think you missed an opportunity.
 
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I'm no good at flirting. I don't even recognize when someone is flirting with me (my kids have sometimes told me after the fact that a man was making overtures, and I'd been oblivious).
 
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That was it I did not mean to flirt…oops!!! I was so embarrassed about my reaction I could not face him again. Will try to learn to recover from the stun. Mabe I will have better luck next time.
I am lucky I blush, which apparently guys consider a non-verbal form of flirting. I blush, avert my eyes and it usually gives me enough time to recover my words.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
Where do you have to be kissed for you to spill your guts and show yourself.

I think you missed an opportunity.
Lol...I do not need to be kissed before spilling my guts, I am very open person. Showing myself …what do you mean?
I was responding back to PY_2 because he said “I will tell you, but you have to give me a necklace.”
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