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Dustyjo is offline Dustyjo Post #1  May 24,2008, 2:04pm
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Reading over several of these blogs...there seems to be one common question....HOw do I know they like me? Sometimes I feel like the answer is so simple and then after reading all of these, I wonder maybe it is not. So I thought we could help each other out...guys and gals what are ways we show we are interested and what are some key things they say we are not. I want to spend my time focusing on the people who are.....

For me....when I am interested I believe in letting them know..by sending an email that might just say I am thinking about them. Out of the blue I will call in the morning instead of waiting for that evening phone call. ( I have also learned alotabout someone in how they respond in the morning). Most guys have said that phone call made them feel like I am really thinking about them, and they liked it.

If it is a first date, I will always send an email thanking them for the date.......if it was a good one, I will let them know how much fun I had. I also believe that if I did not feel like it was a good fit, I let them know that in a very kind and encouraging way. I know how it is to like someone and feel like you are waiting around for them.

I would love to hear from ya'll..............
 
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Too funny...I had this issue myself...the one I kept wondering about proved his answer without ever saying a word, but now someone else has recently entered my life and he makes it very clearhelikes me--a lot! There's no wondering involved with mynew someone and I really, really like that.

So, perhaps the answer is...if we don't "know" it's because the answer is "no" butthey just don't respect you enough to end things.
 
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I'm not talented at reading subtle signals-but I am trying to learn. When I am interested in someone, I simply tell them to their face. I am very open and honest with my feelings. I prefer that in others as well.

Some people have said that being honest and open is threatening to others. In some ways this must be true as my frankness and honest expression of my feelings (mostly good, but sometimes negative) have scared off a few potential partners. Its sad.

So many people list want a man with "Honesty" on their profiles, yet when they are given honesty-they run. It would be an easier world (for me, anyway) if people just said what they felt.

So, how do I know if someone likes me? I'm still trying to figure that answer for myself! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-sealed.gif[/img]
 
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Dustyjo, wrote :

...guys and gals what are ways we show we are interested and what are some key things they say we are not.
I had a date who ... well, grabbed "something". I'm fairly certain it indicated interest.

Unfortunately, I was not receptive in this case.

No second date.
 
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HarryG,121674 wrote :

I'm not talented at reading subtle signals-but I am trying to learn. When I am interested in someone, I simply tell them to their face. I am very open and honest with my feelings. I prefer that in others as well.

Some people have said that being honest and open is threatening to others. In some ways this must be true as my frankness and honest expression of my feelings (mostly good, but sometimes negative) have scared off a few potential partners. Its sad.

So many people list want a man with "Honesty" on their profiles, yet when they are given honesty-they run. It would be an easier world (for me, anyway) if people just said what they felt.

So, how do I know if someone likes me? I'm still trying to figure that answer for myself! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-sealed.gif[/img]
Harry....I do not think the truth is scary when you like someone ...you welcome it. I think the ones that are scared off, were never sure of their feelings from the start. So keep being honest and who you are, the right girl will fall for it....

So how do you know if someone likes you...they tell and show you...it is that simple. I do not want a guy to lose interest because he thinks I am not interested.
 
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Guys.....we are told as women to be a challenge, hard to get??? Is this true, if we reveal our feelings to easy, do you lose interest. Do men only really want what they cannot have??
 
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First things first, I often communicate by email because I think it's very convenient for both parties, and when I'm interested in someone, I'll use her name in the message, and also ask questions. If sheemails me, I'll respond promptly (usually the same day), and do more than provide one word answers or short sentences. If she does the same with me, then I feel she's interested as well. You can read quite a bit between the lines in email, though also misinterpret at times, so I'm not promoting email conversation exclusively. In person, she'll know I like herprimarily by the eye contact and willingness to talk. There are other gestures obviously if we actually enter a relationship.

As for playing hard-to-get, I think men and women both want to feel that they've had to earn your affection in some regard; otherwise, you come across as being willing to settle for anyone, and I don't think we generally like to think someone is with us just because we happened to be there. I don't think you should necessarily be hard to get, but I do think not coming across as too anxious is a good thing.I've absolutely like girls/women who I then distanced myself from because they seemed too compliant and clingy(and I'm not talking about sex here). Of course, now I wish I had some of them back.
 
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ThePriestess,121687 wrote :
Dustyjo, wrote :

...guys and gals what are ways we show we are interested and what are some key things they say we are not.
I had a date who ... well, grabbed "something". I'm fairly certain it indicated interest.

Unfortunately, I was not receptive in this case.

No second date.
LOL

Actually, that is not very funny.
 
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I have not been to the dating stage yet. The questions and answers have given me some insight of potential interest. Most of the communication I have receivedfeels like pulling teeth to get information and interest from matches, meaning one-liners. I am giving some of my matches the benefit of doubt,they may not have alot of computer experience or get frustrated with all the typing. lol Especially when their occupation probaly doesn't involve being behind a desk, like a carpenter or fire-fighter, etc.

Most of the signals of interest I feel are "being rushed". Once I get to OC with a match they usually want to talk or meet right away. This being a new process for me and not wanting to be rushed into a date without knowing my match a little better. I have ageed to phone calls at this point if I didn't get the creepy or red flag instinct.

Does anybody feel the interest maybe too fast?



 
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Dustyjo,121690 wrote :
Guys.....we are told as women to be a challenge, hard to get??? Is this true, if we reveal our feelings to easy, do you lose interest. Do men only really want what they cannot have??
Eh, yes and no, and I think this applies to dating in general - both sexes.

Hard to get, in and of itself, is just another game. I think the point is not to be desperate and too eager to please. That seems to turn eveyone off. If every time I call she picks up on the first ring and has every single weekend open for me, how much of a life does this woman really have? I mean, I'm a nice and eligable guy, but really...

I like women who actually have their own lives and aren't just sitting around waiting for me to make their lives full again. If it means that she's not available each and every time I want to take her out, that's fine, and we'll have something interesting to talk about the next time we do.
 
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