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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #11  March 21,2010, 7:40am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Seriously, I have seen so many profiles with "I have a sense of humor" - yet there is not a single funny thing in their profile.
In their defense, having a sense of humour doesn't mean that you're funny. It means that you can sense it when someone else is. It's the lamest boast imaginable, akin to stating a sense of smell and I dislike reading it in a profile but people do think it's a quality and you can't change 'em. Genuinely funny people would stab themselves in the eye with a rusty spoon before they'd say they had a GSOH (which is so much worse than saying it long hand which in itself is very bad).

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #12  March 21,2010, 7:44am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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When I read "The Goldilocks method" I thought it was going to be a thread about getting into as many beds as you possibly can before you can find one that is "just right".

An examination of the usefulness of sleeping around to find a partner, if you will. I thought, oh, that's going to be inflamatory.

I'm such an idiot sometimes.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
When I read "The Goldilocks method" I thought it was going to be a thread about getting into as many beds as you possibly can before you can find one that is "just right".

An examination of the usefulness of sleeping around to find a partner, if you will. I thought, oh, that's going to be inflamatory.

I'm such an idiot sometimes.
Nah. You just have a good sense of humor.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #14  March 21,2010, 8:08am
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D_Lion wrote :
What makes the bragging bad is when it's more than clear that the author's standard is too low.

Seriously, I have seen so many profiles with "I have a sense of humor" - yet there is not a single funny thing in their profile.

Profiles claiming intelligence and education, yet demonstrating neither, are also common. As is second hand bragging, such as "my friends say I'm cute."

I think it's worth the effort to find these mistakes, and rewrite a profile to remove them.
I responded to your post...waiting for the powers that be to approve my post.

Meh....
 
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legend29 wrote :
The humor...I see your point. I try to avoid humor in my profile unless it is light and comes with a *smile* afterwards, because I spent way too much time when I was growing up watching Mel Brooks, Monty Python and Benny Hill, thus most folks rarely 'get' my humor.

I always come off sounding like a geeky weirdo because my humor is mostly 'inside jokes" stuff, and if you weren't exposed to that type of humor or do not like that style of humor, I can sound like a person that is on meds, or that should be on heavy medication...adios mio!

I keep my 'funnies' to myself until a person gets to know me.
High fives to you... I have the same taste in humor, and like you... yes, I've come to keep my funnies to myself till later! I'd add into that mix... Eddie Izzard and Don Hertzfeldt.... DEFINITELY not everyone's taste! lol...
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Post too long.

Maybe this will help you get a grip on bragging.

Bragging is to speak of oneself with EXCESSIVE pride. The operative word here is excessive. One should be proud of their accomplishments, this is not bragging.
I agree. There's a difference between someone being proud of their accomplishments, versus thinking they're the best thing since sliced bread.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
So, while someone who says they have a great sense of humor wouldn't offend me at all, someone who says they prefer the Marx Brothers to the Three Stooges would definitely get my attention.
This is generally my approach. I liked this specific example because the Marx Brothers and Stooges are two very different types of humor, and it would tell me a lot about that persons sense of humor to make that distinction.

I think bragging can also be about tone. Writing has a tone, and the tone of some peoples proclamation that they are "attractive" and "intelligent" just brings on the eye rolls for me. Or statements like "I'm the whole package" are especially nauseating.

When you don't know someone it can carry a pompous or arrogant air to say such things, and they are usually best avoided.

When you have to eliminate people based on limited information, I would eliminate those people first.
 
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legend29 wrote :
...waiting for the powers that be to approve my post.

This happens a lot to you, doesn't it?!
 
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legend29 wrote :
...there was a 'bragging thread' and I missed it?????

Darn it...I hate being out of the loop!

Don't think I would have posted in the thread, but it sure would have been a great read...
The Link to it is here

Jo posted it in the "What Makes Us Tick?" part of the Relationships Board.

At least that's what I think the OP was referring to....
 
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VolGal wrote :
The Link to it is here

Jo posted it in the "What Makes Us Tick?" part of the Relationships Board.

At least that's what I think the OP was referring to....
Actually I think they're talking about the "I'm cursed" thread....
 
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