hj471230 is offline hj471230 Post #1  March 21,2010, 3:36am
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Got a question for you guy and girls out there...I recently reconnected with a guy that I went to church with in high school(15 years ago). We live in different towns so we communicated via phone, email, and text every day for three months before we saw each other for the first time since high school. We talked for hours some days. I was in the town where he lived for other reasons so I spent the weekend with him. We hit it off so well! The conversation was amazing and he said he was crazy about me by the end of the weekend. After I came back home, things were good and we continued to talk every day. I went back to his town and surprised him last weekend for his birthday. While I was there, the chemistry was still strong and the conversation was good. When I left, we had plans of him coming to see me in the next two weeks. But since I came home from this trip, we have only talked twice and its been very short, sweet, and to the point. I dont know of anything that has happened since I left and I asked him if anything was wrong and he said he just "had things on his mind". I really like this guy and he seemed to really like me so Im really confused. Did I come on too strong by surprising him for his birthday? Am I just overreacting? Im just getting back into the dating scene so Im a little rusty. Any insight would be appreciated!
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  March 21,2010, 10:39am
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Yeah I think the birthday thing was probably too much. I wouldn't surprise anyone like that that I was just reconnecting with even if I had known them prior. Are you contacting him when you have spoken since? I would back off of that completely and let him take the initiative from here. And keep things mellow.
 
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Yea, the surprise is probably what did it. He is probably wondering when you'll surprise him next.
Clear it up with him your not a stalker.
 
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As long as you have a plan for a next meeting already, I would jsut let that happen.

It's okay to keep some communication going, but, really, I would not be asking questions which take long answers, when you have anyway a plan to meet.
 
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Depending on how far apart your town and his is, he may just be rethinking whether he wants to deal with the distance. I've seen situations where someone (geographically) closer becomes available and suddenly the one he was 'crazy about,' isn't as appealing. It's unfair, but unfortunately that can happen sometimes.

Like the others said, just let things ride on a more mellow basis for now -- and see how they play out.

Good luck -- and welcome to the boards!
 
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What does he do? Did work or a hobby suddenly require more time? Has YOUR schedule changed at all?

Confirm the next get together. Stop reading so much into nothing.
 
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Let me just say it this way:

The hotter the fire the sooner it burns out.
 
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Yea, the surprise is probably what did it. He is probably wondering when you'll surprise him next
I think I woulda been more surprised by you then seeing Osama Bin Laden outside holding a box of dynamite on my b-day.

But you sure didn't underexaggerate the definition "SURPRISE"...lol
 
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Maybe you should have jumped out of a cake naked for his birthday. Most guys would want to see more "surprises" like that
 
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