brainsandbeauty is offline brainsandbeauty Post #1  March 20,2010, 5:34pm
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O wow. So I've had a lot of feedback that I really am bragging and not just listing off reasons that I am dateable. But brutal honesty is good. I didn't realize until now that I can be conceited (not that I was trying in this post at all), that some qualities should be shown- not told, and that I'm not alone in my 'curse'. Thanks people!

In love, of course.

I will be honest: I'm beautiful and educated. I don't brag, complain, or have mood swings. I'm a perfect balance of maturity and fun. I have a nice figure and keep in shape. I have one daughter and put alot of time and effort into being a great mom to her. I am hardworking and can make just about anyone laugh. I like sports and shopping. No std's, drug free, no addictions, ect. Healthy (emotionally, mentally, ect)

But I'm cursed. Even my family and friends think/say so. I always wind up with the lowest or the lowest males. One first date revealed that it was "totally ok" that I had a kid because he "had the herp- so we're even". I laugh about it now and thank goodness I didn't drink after him or anything! This is just one example of many.

I am picky. I want a man with compassion, patience, morals, values, fun, adventure, sexy, fit, handsome, and wants to be a family man.

Perhaps it is the fact that I'm a mother, that I am intimidating? or that I can be shy sometimes. I am pretty confident. My best theory is that I am meant for one person alone and I just have to go on my merry way until we stumble across each other. That Fate won't let others work because I'm meant for one particular man alone.

....or I could just be cursed. : )
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brainsandbeauty wrote :
I don't brag:

I will be honest: I'm beautiful and educated. I don't brag, complain, or have mood swings. I'm a perfect balance of maturity and fun. I have a nice figure and keep in shape. I have one daughter and put alot of time and effort into being a great mom to her. I am hardworking and can make just about anyone laugh. I like sports and shopping. No std's, drug free, no addictions, ect. Healthy (emotionally, mentally, ect)

Not bragging effectively is not the same as not bragging.
 
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You're not cursed. You know what you want, and you will not settle for anything less.

I am not hard to look at, I have a wonderful profession (attorney), three well-adjusted children, and a wonderful personality. Unfortunately, no one has really had the opportunity in the past 7 weeks to see or hear that because of the 107 Matches I have had, I have not had the first telephone call, must less alone an in-person meeting. I have had one guy go "poof!"

I have resigned myself that dating and relationships and chemistry are about timing.

If you haven't already, there are two absolutely two charming - and on point - movies you MUST SEE:

1. He's Just Not That Into You

2. The Ugly Truth

Watch them in that order. I saw The Ugly Truth somewhere on my satellite subscription in the last 7 days.

Each of these movies has a lot to say and I encourage you to get some popcorn and to perhaps watch each more than once.

Good luck and keep the faith! He's out there, we just have to be optimistic!
 
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D_Lion:
Double negative kiddo. That doesn't make sense.
If, however, you're saying that I'm bragging: ok.
 
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After yet another bad date, I am starting to believe that I am cursed as well. Similar to your herp man...I had a guy tell me he had HPV. He was surprised when I said I didn't have any STDs...no he wasn't surprised he was shocked and kept asking "really?".

I've had the guy who lied about everything including his name, multiple dates with guys who had deceiving pictures, the commitment issues guy, the poofers, the drug addict who hid it from me, the bipolar who also hid it from me and didn't take his medicine, the married guy who lied about it, the serial dater who said he wouldn't stop serial dating until he was ready to propose and ummm...well that's all I can think of at the moment...but all those were just in the last few years.
 
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Sawyer76 wrote :
After yet another bad date, I am starting to believe that I am cursed as well. Similar to your herp man...I had a guy tell me he had HPV. He was surprised when I said I didn't have any STDs...no he wasn't surprised he was shocked and kept asking "really?".

I've had the guy who lied about everything including his name, multiple dates with guys who had deceiving pictures, the commitment issues guy, the poofers, the drug addict who hid it from me, the bipolar who also hid it from me and didn't take his medicine, the married guy who lied about it, the serial dater who said he wouldn't stop serial dating until he was ready to propose and ummm...well that's all I can think of at the moment...but all those were just in the last few years.
Yea, I notice that they freak out when you tell them you're free of std's and haven't had more than 3 partners...ever.
 
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VolGal wrote :
You're not cursed. You know what you want, and you will not settle for anything less.

I am not hard to look at, I have a wonderful profession (attorney), three well-adjusted children, and a wonderful personality. Unfortunately, no one has really had the opportunity in the past 7 weeks to see or hear that because of the 107 Matches I have had, I have not had the first telephone call, must less alone an in-person meeting. I have had one guy go "poof!"

I have resigned myself that dating and relationships and chemistry are about timing.

If you haven't already, there are two absolutely two charming - and on point - movies you MUST SEE:

1. He's Just Not That Into You

2. The Ugly Truth

Watch them in that order. I saw The Ugly Truth somewhere on my satellite subscription in the last 7 days.

Each of these movies has a lot to say and I encourage you to get some popcorn and to perhaps watch each more than once.

Good luck and keep the faith! He's out there, we just have to be optimistic!
I've seen #1- I'll have to rent #2! Thanks for the advice! I also am extremely intuitive (I claim that as being a maternal instinct) but I can tell if there are secrets, lies, ect before the first dates even over. It's not pessimism either- it all comes out in the wash.
 
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Unsolicited, cheesy inspirational message to follow:

There was once a pair of identical twins that were alike in every way physically. However, they were very different in personality. One twin was a pessimist. The other was an optimist.

A scientist became interested in this situation and decided to have his research group do a study on these twins.

They put the pessimist twin in a room filled with toys and games of every type that could be imagined. Most children would be able to spend years of enjoyment with all the diversionary resources placed before this lucky child. Instead, the pessimist wandered around the room, listless, unimpressed, and bored. Nothing the research team did seemed to interest this twin. They offered to spend time with him, even take him anywhere he might want to go or do anything he might want to do. All these efforts were to no avail. The twin had a terminal case of boredom.

The research team then turned their attention to the optimist twin. They thought that they would lock him in a room with nothing but a pile of horse manure.

After they locked him in the room they stood outside to hear his reaction. At first there was silence. Then they heard a barrage of dull thuds. It was like something was hitting the walls of the room in an irregular pattern. They opened the door and there was this twin digging into this pile of manure with both hands flinging the manure behind him in a frenzy of activity, in all directions hitting all the walls. The scientists shrieked, "What are you doing!??"

The young man responded, "I know there's a pony in there somewhere!!!"

Life is not absolute. It's about attitude. If you focus on the manure, you'll never find the pony.

*end cheesy inspirational message*
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Yes, you are bragging. It doesnt help to be even a little conceited or vein, especially if you arent aware that you are doing it. It's a huge turn-off.

No, you're not cursed. There is no such thing.

We are all picky to some extent so I understand what you mean there. However, I would honestly suggest making an effort at NOT being so picky about everything you want and you may come to find that you can be just as happy with someone, even if they don't meet your looooong list of predetermined expectations.

Also, please don't set expectations before even meeting someone. It sets you up for failure. This is why you attribute your dating life to having been cursed.
 
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brainsandbeauty wrote :
In love, of course.

I will be honest: I'm beautiful and educated. I don't brag, complain, or have mood swings. I'm a perfect balance of maturity and fun. I have a nice figure and keep in shape. I have one daughter and put alot of time and effort into being a great mom to her. I am hardworking and can make just about anyone laugh. I like sports and shopping. No std's, drug free, no addictions, ect. Healthy (emotionally, mentally, ect)

But I'm cursed. Even my family and friends think/say so. I always wind up with the lowest or the lowest males. One first date revealed that it was "totally ok" that I had a kid because he "had the herp- so we're even". I laugh about it now and thank goodness I didn't drink after him or anything! This is just one example of many.

I am picky. I want a man with compassion, patience, morals, values, fun, adventure, sexy, fit, handsome, and wants to be a family man.

Perhaps it is the fact that I'm a mother, that I am intimidating? or that I can be shy sometimes. I am pretty confident. My best theory is that I am meant for one person alone and I just have to go on my merry way until we stumble across each other. That Fate won't let others work because I'm meant for one particular man alone.

....or I could just be cursed. : )
OMG! I thought it was just me. If there is a loser out there I will find him. I am educated, successful,family all raised and doing great. I find myself missing someone to speak with and do things with, yet so far I have only received ? well I won't go into that here, don't wish to hurt anyone's feelings. Lets just say I haven't been matched with my someone yet! still waiting.
 
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