Filtering Out Mr. or Ms. Right


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cal_dude is offline cal_dude Post #101  March 20,2010, 7:16pm
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jussmile wrote :
after thinking about this more... height, financial status, emotional health, and smoking are the "filters" that I use...

married/not married, children/no children, "good" looks, specific height, education, degree, occupation, etc... aren't that important.
How do you determine the financial status from a profile?
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
To pull this to dating it would be the risk of missing Mr./Ms. Right.
I'm a Destiny kind of girl. I believe that if there really is a Mr./Ms. Right for you.....somehow, someway.....you will end up with that person. No matter the filters and parameters you use.

I don't pretend to know how or why things happen the way they do, but I do think.....in general.....things work out for the best, as they were meant to be. Destiny.

Of course, that doesn't preclude one seizing an Opportunity.....when it presents itself.

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I'm a Destiny kind of girl. I believe that if there really is a Mr./Ms. Right for you.....somehow, someway.....you will end up with that person. No matter the filters and parameters you use.

I don't pretend to know how or why things happen the way they do, but I do think.....in general.....things work out for the best, as they were meant to be. Destiny.

Of course, that doesn't preclude one seizing an Opportunity.....when it presents itself.

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I like this. Also why I don't worry a whole lot about my filters. Okay, I don't worry at all about them.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
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I admit I have a list of things that I dislike about humans. The list is rather long actually and not necessarily mainstream ideas.
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I am posting this because it makes me sad to see so many people looking for someone. People who are trying so hard to find that someone that they will do almost anything that makes sense to achieve this. I am sitting here knowing that these filters don’t always make sense and I can’t help but wonder if because of using them they have missed Mr. or Ms. Right.

Sorry this is sooooo long.
So ... it is fine for you to have a long list of things that you "filter" your matches through but to the rest of us this is something that is going to make us bypass Mr. or Ms. Right
 
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cal_dude wrote :
How do you determine the financial status from a profile?
On eHarmony this is not something that is part of a profile. On many other dating sites income is something that you can check a box for. Of course someone could have a very high income and be financially insolvent.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
So ... it is fine for you to have a long list of things that you "filter" your matches through but to the rest of us this is something that is going to make us bypass Mr. or Ms. Right
Why did you put filter in quotes? You were quoteing me and I didn't use the term filter in that manner. That is not a quote.

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They are not filters, I don't prejudge using them. There are types of personalities that I just don't get along with. It isn't hard to figure out what a persons personalities and values are when you meet them. I was speaking to people who believe they can filter out personality traits based on a profile.
 
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Nanette wrote :
I like this. Also why I don't worry a whole lot about my filters. Okay, I don't worry at all about them.
girlFriend, with that avatar of yours.....the only "filter" you need is the kind that will "filter" out a line of guys stretching clear down the block and way into the next county!

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On eHarmony this is not something that is part of a profile. On many other dating sites income is something that you can check a box for. Of course someone could have a very high income and be financially insolvent.
So true. I ran across one of those years ago. Told about it here in a thread done by Lady JuJu quite aways back.....how I had to "filter" him out for being "financially insolvent".

I seem to recall a Friend told me....."So you love for money".

I got double duty out of that "filter" I used. I "filtered" out the guy with the "very high income" who was "financially insolvent".....and I "filtered" out a Friend who was not so great after all.

Best "filter" money can buy, I'd say.

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
On eHarmony this is not something that is part of a profile. On many other dating sites income is something that you can check a box for. Of course someone could have a very high income and be financially insolvent.
So, financial status is the first filter... then, if they are financially irresponsible (something you learn later), that would also be a mis-match in values for me. But, you're right, you cannot filter that part out up front. I believe there are several layers in the filtering process (if there are values that are important for you).
 
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