The 3-Date Wonder

That exact same thing is happening to me right now. We have been e-mailing each other and dating (3 dates) and I cannot read him. The first date we had to reschedule and when we did meet, he gave me a hug when we left. I thought it went well and he did text me and told me he had a good time. He checks his e-mail once a week or two weeks and I can't stand that. He has been a perfect gentleman and but it seems like he is loosing interest. I want things to work out because I like him and he seems like he could be the one BUT I noticed he changed his profile on the dating site and made it sound better and also took his picture off. I feel like he is still looking and dosen't think I would be the one. He is just doing the minimum to keep me interested but is still looking. I feel terrible and want to tell him in so many words to get lost but I like him. What should I do? I feel like there is nothing better for him right now but when someone else comes along he will drop me so fast. Any suggestions? Thanks!

Hi, just hafta let you know that you're not the only one this happens to..I experience the very same thing. Just something that happens, I think. However, when I reflect on the guys I was with (one at a time, of course) when this happened, I realize that it's probably not all my fault. I'm able to see the immaturity within them, and the fact that they don't have enough pinache to even call me or send e-mail and tell me that it's just not important to them that we continue seeing each other. If they'd do this, it would kinda at least let me know that the relationship isn't going anywhere for them, and I've got the little bit of closure I need, and I can move on. On the other hand, I've had to do this myself to some of the guys I've met...they may want to pursue a relationship, etc., but I just don't feel the chemistry is there between us, so I simply tell them....there's no connection between us. I know this from the first time we meet, on my part.The difference here is that I WILL tell the guy if there's not to be any further contact between us, where the guys won't usually tell us, the girls, the same thing. That's why I call it immaturity. In all fairness to the guys, not all of them are this way, thank goodness.

Is it romantic to kiss with fried chicken breath?

Sort of like the guys who'd like an effective way to weed out those women who wouldn't be up for sex on the third date.

Or you could read what's actually been said here, which is that it's not about sex on the third date, but participation by the woman (beyond just showing up).

Don't worry- at least you can still get your free meals.

If you put out, you'll get that fourth date. Quite frankly, if I buy you dinner, then there is 100% an expectation for sex.

You want to be equal to men in all ways, which is fine, but in that world of equality you lose the entire idea of being treated like a lady. The mystique is gone. Now, you are treated like any other person.

Really? This goes on among men? What if you aren't in the mood, but your best bud pays while you are in the bathroom?

Curious minds want to know.