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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #21  March 13,2010, 6:51pm
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Wrong kind of guy = Guy shallow enough to eliminate you as a dating partner because your nail polish was chipped.
Oh, he didn't eliminate me. We have plans for another date.

Also, I don't believe in the word "shallow" personally. To me, people just have different priorities. Just because a guy has a certain look that he wants or expects, to me, does not make him any more right or wrong for a guy who prefers a woman with a certain level of education, certain hair color... no kids... etc. They are all just preferences. It's typically when a person's preferences don't necessarily match up to your own that we find something wrong with theirs. I just think that we can't all expect everyone to think that the priorities we consider important, are the gold standard... they are just our own personal opinions and standards.
 
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Oh, he didn't eliminate me. We have plans for another date.

Also, I don't believe in the word "shallow" personally. To me, people just have different priorities. Just because a guy has a certain look that he wants or expects, to me, does not make him any more right or wrong for a guy who prefers a woman with a certain level of education, certain hair color... no kids... etc. They are all just preferences. It's typically when a person's preferences don't necessarily match up to your own that we find something wrong with theirs. I just think that we can't all expect everyone to think that the priorities we consider important, are the gold standard... they are just our own personal opinions and standards.
Allrighty then. So what was the point of this thread?

Enjoy your date. Personally, I wouldn't go out again with a guy who criticized my appearance on the first date.
 
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Allrighty then. So what was the point of this thread?

Enjoy your date. Personally, I wouldn't go out again with a guy who criticized my appearance on the first date.
I completely understand your POV, just like I understand some women who believe that all things should be "fair" and "equal" in relationships/dating. I was just stating in this thread that it's not always fair or equal. The expectations that some guys have is probably different then a lot of guys here on this board, and that of which many women here would also not find suitable. Simply, there are different perspectives out there. It was just another one that I find interesting and thought I would share.

I personally didn't find his comment offensive. If I had, you are right, I would not have made plans to go out with him again.
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Was the guy straight? I can't imagine making negative comments about someone's fingernails, and I couldn't care less if you paint yours or not.
Or the guy just prefers to have polished/painted nails run down his shaved chest!
 
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Or the guy just prefers to have polished/painted nails run down his shaved chest!

This wasn't even shaved chest guy!

Yes, he is straight. This particular guy just likes a woman to look really nice when he takes her out. Great conversationalist, nice to waitstaff, fun and funny... he just prefers a woman who is well put together and demonstrates that she cares about her appearance. He would also always insist on walking a woman to her car, paying for a date and opening the door.
 
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Men...what if the woman showed up with black fingernail polish? or some other really weird color? I had that happen, and it freaked me out.
 
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jussmile wrote :
In reading another thread about men's expenses for dating, being the same as a woman's. That fair is fair, and all things should be equal, I had a dating experience yesterday that I think summed up my opinion on the topic...

I went out on a date and looked really nice, my hair was nice, dressed nicely, smelled nicely, the whole nine yards... only problem, I didn't have time to paint my fingernails. The nail polish on them had chipped (I had a mani/pedi a week before, but they messed up the base coat). Anyway, I try to always look in top form. But, on my date last night, the guy commented on how my nails were not manicured ! It kinda bothered him.

Men have certain expectations of women, so I personally think it okay for women to have certain expectations of men. All things aren't quite equal are they?
What is he-gay? Why is he looking at and commenting on your nails? Be glad you found this out on the first date.
 
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*shakes head*

In my traditional upbringing, it was always considered rude to make comments on another's appearance. Only the most innocuous of postive remarks are acceptable. (i.e. "you look very well today")

What's going on with young people today?
 
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Oh my goodness...so I guess when I said to my date "You look so lovely, that Tosca colored earrings really match your teal-colored necklace!"

Too gay?

I thought women like observant men
 
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Ok ok,b your point is proven: looks are your #1 priority, and you are going to put a guy under a microscope tocheck for an out of place hair. Hence you also want him to put you under the microscope as well.

You can't inspect people that meticulously and then wonder why you are single...
 
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