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fullpackage is offline fullpackage Post #1  March 6,2010, 8:06pm
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I went on a first date for drinks with this guys 4 days ago, the date went pretty well.. Although I am not that into him I feel they could be some potential there, so I am willing to give it a try...Anyway he emailed me today asking me out for a second date for movies. Part of his message is " I was going to chill out and watch a movie Tuesday night. Would you like to join me? No set time, I'm flexible". He doesnt say where he want to meet etc..this message sounds to me like that could be at his house (which i find inappropriate for the 2nd date). I believe that movie date is when u already really know better about each other since u cant really talk much. Something I find alarming is that he didnt say where he intend to watch the movie. I feel like he is try me to see what I would say... am I reading too much into this? or is the email a little fishy?
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If a guy is asking me to his house on a second date I'm pretty sure he is wanting action.

I would ask where he wanted to go and see what his response is and go from there.
 
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fullpackage wrote :
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I went on a first date for drinks with this guys 4 days ago, the date went pretty well.. Although I am not that into him I feel they could be some potential there, so I am willing to give it a try...Anyway he emailed me today asking me out for a second date for movies. Part of his message is " I was going to chill out and watch a movie Tuesday night. Would you like to join me? No set time, I'm flexible". He doesnt say where he want to meet etc..this message sounds to me like that could be at his house (which i find inappropriate for the 2nd date). I believe that movie date is when u already really know better about each other since u cant really talk much. Something I find alarming is that he didnt say where he intend to watch the movie. I feel like he is try me to see what I would say... am I reading too much into this? or is the email a little fishy?
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I'm a heretic, but I don't think movie dates are all that bad. It's a shared activity you can discuss later over drinks and it's relatively inexpensive and easy and enjoyable for most folks to engage in even if the movie turns out to be less than academy award winning.

I wouldn't do so at his house until I'm comfortable with him .... so I'd just ask him what movie he had in mind and go from there.
 
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As a guy, watching a movie means I want to start getting touchy. Whether it's at a theater or at home. At home is a lot more forward though. Especially for a second date. I have had some hot movie theater dates though so watch out for those as well if you're not that into him.
 
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Seems like he's not that into you too because he is showing 0 effort in planning the second date.

I mean, let's go see a movie, I don't mention even which one or where...weaksauce.

You are willing to give him a try but he's not even trying really.

If you were actually interested, I'd say suggest something else like going to an event in the area, or some live music.

Since you are not really into him don't waste your time.
 
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I don't see anything wrong with a movie date on the second date if it's in a theater. My days of "making out" in the movie theater left when I graduated high school, so the way I see it, going to the movies on the second date can be fun, and certainly can open up talk (about the movie) afterward.

If it's movie night at his place, he's definitely wanting to fool around. Since you find that inappropriate on the second date, I would decline or suggest going out to the movies.
 
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I like movies (at the theater) on second dates, because it gives you something to talk about, and you can see if you have similar taste in movies. I also think it's a fun night out, and something you don't do everyday. I agree about not going to their house on the second date though. Just ask him, what did you have in mind to see or ask him where he wanted to go?
 
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robv_la wrote :
Seems like he's not that into you too because he is showing 0 effort in planning the second date.

I mean, let's go see a movie, I don't mention even which one or where...weaksauce.

You are willing to give him a try but he's not even trying really.
Well said!

In my dating experiences, men always set up the second date by the end of the first date, if interested...not four days later as in the case of the OP. It seems more like a casual 'after-thought' on his part..and not a request worth responding to.
 
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I think you have read his invitation correctly. As well as his intent.

I will get my "Horn Dog" stamp and stamp his forehead so that it is clear to everyone he meets.
 
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lately I went on a "second date" movie.. that man's hands were everywhere! At some point, I asked if he thought this was a joke! There was no 3rd date...

Since there isn't a whole lot of talking in a movie.. i'm going to move that to 4th or 5th date... There has to be something else for a 2nd....

What your date did was fish for some action, was either being lazy or cheap... NEXT!
 
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