The old 'Too good to be true?' schtick?


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SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #1  March 4,2010, 6:40pm
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So... I've gone on two fantastic dates with Pat #2. They've been great. He's been great. I don't have butterflys, but I really like this guy (do butterfly's really exist? maybe a high school thing?) We mesh. We laugh. We have really great.... conversations lol. So, I just found out that I have a week off from my old job until I start my new job. He was asking about what dates exactly I had off, etc. I'm like ok... I'm off these dates, theses are the dates I don't have my son. And he says something like well, I hope you get a little vacation, you really deserve to rest. Very nice. However today, I get these texts "I have a suprise for you if you want to spend the 14th and 15th with me and relax for a bit. I have 2 nights of reservations. No details beyond that other than relax time. But should be ready for anything from a hike to swimming. Lol. Hope you like suprises".

Wow! How fantastic is that?! I haven't had a guy plan something out to suprise me with in.... well, ever? I'm SUPER excited, but nervous! Where are we going... what do I pack... what do I wear... what if I snore... etc. All my girl thoughts gone crazy right? So, I text my best friends the im's. My one girlfriend texts me back "Fun! Just be careful. As much as we try to deny it, guys don't work the way we want them to. They never do, so you just have to be on your toes" This coming from a girl who's apparently found the love of her life and is pregnant with their child. So, the point of my story... is this too good to be true? Am I being nieve thinking that this is ok? He did text me back saying that "You're being quite the sport trusting someone like that" What say you smart people?
 
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Really? Wow! I totally agree. Absolutely.
 
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Do you know his hiv status?
 
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As long as you take common sense precautions you should be okay.

These include knowing exactly where you're going, when you're leaving, when you expect to return. Your friends/family need to know this information and how they can reach you (not just your cell phone number), as well as detailed contact information on your date, including his full name, home and cell phone numbers, and (preferably) his home address as well.

Most importantly, your date should know that all this information has been provided to your friends/family. Any decent man will respect your need for safety and not have an issue with providing the information to you.

It also doesn't hurt to have a bug-out plan should the date not go well. Will you be close to transportation if you want to leave alone, are there places you can get to where you would feel safe should the need arise, etc.?

Sorry if this is a bit of a downer.

ETA: Be sure to have enough money to make your way home on your own.
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I think when a relationship is new you always have to keep an eye out for personal safety. However, you do have to make opportunities to get to know them.

Think about the "vibe" you got with him on the dates...sometimes people just click and the comfort is there.

It really is all about trust and that is something that builds with time. Some people are who they say or act and others revert to other behavior as you date them. I'd be nervous with all the unknowns on his character since the relationship is so new. However, adventure by definition is having some unknowns.

I'd just go with your gut on this one and leave some plan like checking with friends or something for your own safety.
 
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I'd take a look at why I'm more excited about someone doing something nice for me than about actually being with them (butterflies).

I can only say what I would do in this situation - I would not go for a two day date with someone after only 2 dates with no butterflies. But that's just me - I always suggest doing what's comfortable, with no expectations.
 
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nightling wrote :
Do you know his hiv status?
Negative. YAY!
 
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SweetKatieA wrote :
Negative. YAY!
lol good girl.
 
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nophotos wrote :
I'd take a look at why I'm more excited about someone doing something nice for me than about actually being with them (butterflies).

I can only say what I would do in this situation - I would not go for a two day date with someone after only 2 dates with no butterflies. But that's just me - I always suggest doing what's comfortable, with no expectations.
I'm not more excited about someone doing something nice for me than about being with him. I'm not sure butterflies exist anymore to be honest. I get excited about talking to him and nervous about our dates and make sure I'm all dolled up and all that... It's not until the weekend after this one and we will probably have about 2 or 3 dates before then. So, it'll be about 5 dates before the 2 day date.
 
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lol good girl.
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