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shocker555 is offline shocker555 Post #1  February 26,2010, 9:00am
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Hi so I'm a 20 year old guy and need some advice.

I take only one night class currently (community college), one day a week for around 3 hours. There is a girl in our class that is really cute and seems nice from observing, but since it is a night class most people keep to themselves. Also, because most are going to bigger universities so they tend not to be as social because they won't be attending for long.

I am not a creeper who just stares or something, but she is hard to not notice

Now I have no idea how old she is (she could be a lot older) and what if she already has a bf or very well married.. There are some that are around my age, but others who are well 5+ years to me.

Now I know most people might say to just talk to her, but its not so easy I think. I am not really shy, but it just depends on the situation and thats my problem.
I don't want it to be awkward for her or myself, we only have like 8 weeks left together. But what if she is already with someone, and like when there are breaks sometimes we leave the room, but everyone else in the room is like dead quiet. I do think the best time to talk would be when she goes out during breaks. But if she doesn't like me it will make everything awkward won't it?
I don't usually pick girls up in classes lol and I'm not like a full time student.

So its hard because sometimes you find out these community college people live far away or will be going to universities in other states!

I don't really sit near her because most people sit in the same seats, so the teacher recognizes them. If I moved seats I think people would kinda notice something was up sadly lol

I don't know much about the girls personality so I am taking a chance, but that is always the most important thing.. but she just looks kind. I just don't know how I should make a move without surprising her or making it awkward.. she really doesn't talked to anyone only answers questions in class.
 
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Here are some tricks...

1. sit next to her in class

2. talk about homework assignments...has she done them or not.

3. If you are really good in the subject you can help or or act dumb and have her help you.

Then you break through that idea of hitting on her.
 
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Hi so I'm a 20 year old guy and need some advice.

I take only one night class currently (community college), one day a week for around 3 hours. There is a girl in our class that is really cute and seems nice from observing, but since it is a night class most people keep to themselves. Also, because most are going to bigger universities so they tend not to be as social because they won't be attending for long.

I am not a creeper who just stares or something, but she is hard to not notice

Now I have no idea how old she is (she could be a lot older) and what if she already has a bf or very well married.. There are some that are around my age, but others who are well 5+ years to me.

Now I know most people might say to just talk to her, but its not so easy I think. I am not really shy, but it just depends on the situation and thats my problem.
I don't want it to be awkward for her or myself, we only have like 8 weeks left together. But what if she is already with someone, and like when there are breaks sometimes we leave the room, but everyone else in the room is like dead quiet. I do think the best time to talk would be when she goes out during breaks. But if she doesn't like me it will make everything awkward won't it?
I don't usually pick girls up in classes lol and I'm not like a full time student.

So its hard because sometimes you find out these community college people live far away or will be going to universities in other states!

I don't really sit near her because most people sit in the same seats, so the teacher recognizes them. If I moved seats I think people would kinda notice something was up sadly lol

I don't know much about the girls personality so I am taking a chance, but that is always the most important thing.. but she just looks kind. I just don't know how I should make a move without surprising her or making it awkward.. she really doesn't talked to anyone only answers questions in class.
What a great time to be in school and at the age you are at! Night school can be pretty cool since most of the people there are a little more relaxed and mature and most want to be there as well. Unless the teacher is a real hard case, I'm sure it would be Ok to come in just a tad late just a few times. Wait until everyone is seated and starting to pay attention. There's no need to make a grand entrance, but you could come in just a tad late then all eyes will be on you of course. Quietly walk past this girl on the way to your seat, give her a glance and a little smile and take it from there.

You can also do the opposite, show up early and wait just by the front door of the class room; outside and give her a smile as she walks past you into the class room then walk in yourself. Go out during breaks, hang out and observe what she does. You can learn a lot just from some simple observations. For example, does this person socialize with others from the class, if she does this is a good sign. If this person remains isolated, perhaps pulls a cell phone first chance and spends all their time texting or on the phone, that's not a good sign (she has other priorities). If this person is all all interested in you; she will observe you as well, it's a pretty natural thing and you should be able to up on that too.



Good luck.
 
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Got to just take the bull by the horns and asks.

If she is not available, she will probably just say so. No worries.

If she doesn't want to be approached by you ... well, all bets are off as to what she might do.

If she does, then you win.

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D_Lion wrote :
Got to just take the bull by the horns and asks.

If she is not available, she will probably just say so. No worries.

If she doesn't want to be approached by you ... well, all bets are off as to what she might do.

If she does, then you win.

Even the greatest baseball players miss most of the time.
I agree with this. You will only find out by trying. I would recommend taking baby steps. Try smiling at her one day, then saying hi and so on. You don't have to ask her out the first time you speak to her. Like Dlion said she may say no, but look at the bright side - you will then know and the next time you want to speak to someone it will be easier.

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shocker555 is offline shocker555 Post #6  February 27,2010, 4:17pm
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Thanks for all the advice! It makes me feel more confident

I'm going in with zero expectations, I might talk to her in class, but on break could be good too.

im very good at speaking with girls usually its just the situation, and I just don't want to make it awkward for them.

I am going to first say Hey whats up, I'm ... whats your name? thats a given to make an introduction.

But what are some things I should say after that? At another forum I told people to ask about her major or what she thinks of the class, but they said i shouldn't ask such nerdy or other too personal questions.

the class is monday so I can't like how was the weekend, i could say did you have a good weekend. but thats a little odd when i have never spoken to them before you know
 
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I agree just take an opportunity to start talking with her. Maybe just start by asking what she thinks of the class so far. Then you can make some observations of your own like...I thought this would be tougher or easier, more detailed, whatever.

Then mention why you are taking the class (volunteer some info)...like you are working on a degree long term or something. Then ask her if it's helping her in the same way.

If the conversation goes smoothly and you don't see a wedding ring or engagement ring on her finger, then ask her if she'd be your study partner for the upcoming exam or test. She'll know this is an excuse and at this point will mention a boyfriend or something if she has one or if she's not interested. No harm no foul here, just say ok no problem...good luck on the test...then casually leave.

But if she says yes, then at least you have a chance to get to know her better away from the classroom.
 
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You have breaks together? During lecture pick something that was said that was interesting or different. During break bring the info. up as an icebreaker. She may be receptive as this is non personal and not invading her personal space. If conversation goes well then at the very least you will be making a acquaintance/friend while getting to know her.
 
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Just don't dip her hair in the ink.
 
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Suggesting a study date might be a good way to get to know her a bit better without the pressure of creating a social expectation right away.

I asked my ex-husband to tutor me in Chemistry.
 
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