spoonieluv is offline spoonieluv Post #1  February 21,2010, 8:11pm
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So I've been seeing this woman for about 2 months now. We are "dating" I suppose you could call it. I was wondering how I could go about getting past the "dating" stage and into a relationship.
 
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Seems like you aren't even sure you two are dating. My guess is you two go out together, you really like her but nothing intimate occurs besides a quick kiss at the end of each date.

After two months, if you haven't made a move by now it's too late. A move like going in for a long, steamy kiss in the car with her.

If you are already doing that and you want to be exclusive with her, then talk to her about it...asking what she feels about it.
 
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spoonieluv wrote :
So I've been seeing this woman for about 2 months now. We are "dating" I suppose you could call it. I was wondering how I could go about getting past the "dating" stage and into a relationship.
I don't think it's too late to get past the "dating" stage...but you need to make a move soon. Real soon. Have the two of you talked at all about being in a relationship? What kinds of things do you do when you're together? What kind of "vibe" do you get off of her?

I dated a guy once and we had great fun together but he let things go too far into the "dating" stage and took too long to go into the relationship or "what are we?" stage. I gave him more than two months because I wasn't in a hurry. But when things kept dragging on past the three or four months we "dated" I was no longer interested - because I felt that if he was really interested he should have said something by that point. Broke things off with him and told him we would just be frends. Found out later from the person who introduced us that he was really hurt that I had broken things off with him and that he was really into me but didn't want to move too fast!

Go ahead and talk to your girl...find out where her head is.
 
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Are either of you seeing other people?

I see two paths here:

Path one, you state to her you would like to be exclusive. Then, let her react to that. If she agrees, you have a "relationship." If she does not, cut your losses and walk away.

Path two, push for more intimacy. If she goes along, you have a relationship. If she balks, you need to converse to understand why, and, considering your own values, decide if to continue.
 
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What the devil is a relationship
 
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At a bit over 2 months, my guy and I had the 'exclusive' talk. We had been seeing each other at least 2 times a week and had moved from kissing to necking to petting and knew sex was on the verge.

He brought it up, I countered with my requesting he have an STD test. I had just had one and gave him the clean results. He had the test at the same clinic I went to while I was gone for a week and when I came home we scheduled a long weekend at the coast to see how we matched and spent entire days and nights together.

One of you needs to initiate the conversation....if you've been steadily moving along towards this, you should be feeling the vibes. If you aren't getting any indications that she is growing closer to you, then perhaps she isn't as interested.

Only you and she know where you are in the process..and the best and easiest thing to do is just talk about it. If you aren't comfortable bring this topic up, then IMO you arent ready to have an exclusive relationship.
 
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Honestly my answer is.. you don't.

To me.. I thnk things either become a relationship or they don't. I don't think there is a switch you can just flip to make something a relationship (and like the first respondent said, you are acting like your'e not even sure you're dating to begin with ~ so 'im not sure how you go from, may not be dating even into relationship...).

Doesn't somethign just not click about that?

So ya to me... dating, relationships.. it's not really something you DO or these 5 steps you take, that makes something either of those things. It just does it on its own.

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hummm..u cannot make it happen
it really depends on how far the relationship grows...do you see each other more like at least 2 or even 3 times a week; talk over the phone everything...planning the weekend even just MON...etc..all these will put you two in relationship gradually.
if the above is not happening...then maybe u need to find out whats really going on or is it the right match..
 
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richey wrote :
Honestly my answer is.. you don't.
To me.. I thnk things either become a relationship or they don't. I don't think there is a switch you can just flip to make something a relationship
Richey


Bummer.....I was just going to suggest flipping the relationship switch. Everyone love convenience with none of the work
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
What the devil is a relationship
It's what you have (or had) when, after catching you with another woman, she gets really, really, reeeaallly angry.
 
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