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beachgirl5 is offline beachgirl5 Post #1  February 20,2010, 12:24pm
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In about a half hour I have a date with a guy I've made a major connection with via email. For a couple of weeks the emails have flown and gotten longer and deeper. We've exchanged lots of pictures, talked about it all. We feel so connected.

What' the chance this will survive real world meeting?
 
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Do you want probability or encouragement?
 
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There is really no way to guess. In the end it won't matter what happened with any other couple, only what happens with you.

My opinion is that it is always preferable to meet earlier rather than later, so get thee to that first date!
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Well, please do tell what happens.
 
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I want the tuth.

I've been traveling which delayed the meeting. But have to say changed the dynamic--I feel like I know this man. I'm so interested if seeing if this get to know him first method works....
 
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In my experience, nothing on e-mail has any bearing on how I evaluate someone after meeting.

None of it matters, either.

Go and enjoy, as that is the only choice now.

Appearance, real-time conversation, and any new revelations are the points that will matter.
 
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OP ive been there. i have had times where it was a major bomb almost to the point where i could barely contain my disappointment (my earlier online dating experiences. i know better now). others it was just ok. nothing earth shattering but you never know
 
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beachgirl5 wrote :
In about a half hour I have a date with a guy I've made a major connection with via email. For a couple of weeks the emails have flown and gotten longer and deeper. We've exchanged lots of pictures, talked about it all. We feel so connected.

What' the chance this will survive real world meeting?
It's almost impossible to say. It looks like you two are off to a great start, though. My only advice is to take it one step at a time and not rush into anything. Relax, have fun and hopefully it'll be a laid-back experience. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
 
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I had gotten very close to man on a dating site, who was much older than myself and had some major health issues. We talked on the phone all the time for 4 months. We were both open and shared a lot of things about ourselves. He had told me about him cheating on his wife before she died. He said that he would never treat another woman like that again. He seemed truly sorry for hurting his ex-wife. I never asked hm if he had ever cheated. He just voluntary came out and told me. He lives in a state that is not too far away. He had given me his address, phone number, information about his family, etc. I even did a ackground check on him, and it all checked out. We were planning to meet the next week. The last time we talked was almost 2 months ago. He just stopped calling. No explanations and no reasons. I've sent him a couple emails, left him many messages on his answering machine, asking him to call and let me know if he was ok. I even emailed his daughters, but they never answered me back. I don't understand what happened. The last time he called me, he said that he loved me and that he would call me back that night. I never heard from him again. I did call the hospital and found out that he is seeing a doctor every week now. I was so afraid that his cancer had come back. I just don't know why he would treat me this way. I was married for over 25 years and my ex cheated with so many women. My new friend assured me that he would never do the same as my ex. He kept telling me that he was not him. I really trusted him, and now I am hurt again. Even though I look at and read other men's profiles, I am scared to trust anybody off the internet again. Any suggestions?
 
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Just try not to build up any over-the-top expectations. eH is best used as a way to meet people to date, not as a means to date people from distance before you date.
 
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