Men, do ladies ever pick up the cheque?


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tenderheart105 is offline tenderheart105 Post #1  February 17,2010, 7:36pm
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Hello there,

I am a woman and when I am out on a date, I will look for an opportunity to pick up the cheque. I would not expect the man to pick up the cheque simply because he's a man. I think it's nice to alternate instead of going dutch.

Men, do ladies ever pick up the cheque on a first date? How about the second?

What is your impression of women who do?
 
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Here's for a start:
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This is a woman's point of view, but I always offer to pay starting from the first date. It just seems polite, and I've consistently gotten positive reactions from men. Not one has said "Handling money is not your place, woman; back to the kitchen!"
 
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Synopsis:

Men love it when ladies pick up the check
No, not enough ladies pick up the check

Dont you really want to know their impression of ladies who dont?
Last edited by Nanette; February 17,2010 at 8:23pm. Reason: I'm one that doesn't. They love me anyway lol
 
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I knew there had to be a reason I wanted to pay on dates
 
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A dinner payment thread that D_Lion hasn't seen yet. Perfect!
 
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tenderheart105 wrote :
Hello there,

I am a woman and when I am out on a date, I will look for an opportunity to pick up the cheque. I would not expect the man to pick up the cheque simply because he's a man. I think it's nice to alternate instead of going dutch.

Men, do ladies ever pick up the cheque on a first date? How about the second?

What is your impression of women who do?
I have only had one woman offer to pick up the whole check on the first date. I declined and she said that she would take me out for the second date. Never heard back from her.

Have had a number of women offer to pay their part of the bill on the first date. That comes across loud and clear THERE AIN'T GONNA BE A SECOND DATE!
 
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I dont have a problem with it if its rational and they insist. For example say I drive 1-2 hrs to meet her for dinner near where she lives. Its a good character measure if she offers to pick up the check.
 
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