Met this girl at an activity group and confused once again.


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MQRegan is offline MQRegan Post #1  February 9,2010, 10:07pm
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I joined a local activity / recreation group. Something where people who are of similar ages join and hang out. Anyway, joined this group and a few months after I joined, this girl also joins. We talked several times in the group and at the last one, she was talk about why no guys were hitting on her. I said well two (there are only three i the group) already hit on her, and she said not my type. That leaves only me. She asked me a question on something a while back and I gave it to the activity leader to give to her. She then asked why didn't I contact her directly. I said I did not have your contact info. So she gave me her card and then asked for mine. She typed my name in her cell and added it there. We said down for dinner at a restaurant, and she was sitting on one end and me and someone else was sitting at the other. She then said jokingly to me, ya know, I don't have koudiees. Smiled and brushed it off. Speed up to last week...

I had an argument with the group leaders and I left the group. A week later she e mailed me and said I heard you left the group. Is everything okay? If you ever want to hangout together, I would definitely be interested. Replied back saying I'm great and appreciate you for asking. Just said I did not fit well with the group. Also said would also be interested in hanging out. Let me know how you week is and we can setup something. She replied back on Monday saying sucks to hear. I would definetely be up for hanging out sometime. Call me if you want.

Have not called her yet. Do you think she's interested in me as in dating or just a friend? Though, if it was just a friend, why would she care that I left and say twice she'd definitely be interested in hanging out? I am REALLY bad at reading women, and since its local and we both know everyone, making the wrong move would be pretty humiliating.
 
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Don't over analyze it man...she gave you a call after a week...and told you that she heard that you left the group, either somebody told her or she asked what's going on.

Really man, who cares whether she likes you 'just' as a friend or more..seriously. Just have a great time and call her.

Don't over-think it and trip over your own mind.

Good luck!
 
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e mail not call. She asked me to call if I wanted too. Just would like to know how to handle it. I approach things differently when its a friend or something more. If it means anything, she's the only one who reached out and asked if everything is okay and offered to hanout if I also wanted too.
 
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Email, call..smoke signals...etc same difference. She contacted you....(even when you did not contact her). Most people are not that friendly when it comes to activity group. Once you're gone, you're gone.

Seriously man, don't do this 'I approach things differently' stuff....just think about this, you might not have spent time just the two of you...the easiest way is to just pick a decent place for maybe a brunch, or a nice lunch, maybe combined with walk in a park or something....pick some nicer place, but not TOO nice that she'll get too nervous...key is you want it to be nice, special but not too formal.

Men want women to be clear....hey she already been giving all the signals, all the initiating....(Nanette would've told her, that she's crazy lol)...that activity partner of yours was already doing half of the dirty work....you just have to reciprocate, can't get any more easier than that!
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I guess so. I'm not Mr. obvious on these things. More like Mr. oblivious. Park, bit too cold for that. We are having a blizzard right now in NJ. Maybe do a movie and dinner on Sunday. Yea, its Valentines day, but I know she has something with the group already set for Friday and Saturday. Now, I do not want to seem too desperate, so if I am asked, I will say I already have plans for both days. Reason for Sunday is Monday is a holiday for most people. Let's see what she says. If she shoots me down, I'll then say what works for you? I usually like to pick the stuff, but if she shoots down the first day and suggestion, what else am I supposed to do? Ask her for next weekend?
 
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From what I can tell, she seems very interested in you. "Hitting on" means interest in more than friendship. She has done a lot of initiating, giving you tons of signals, and now you just need to set something up. I say go for it if you're interested. Her signals are very clear.
 
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dude, she's raising up a flag.
 
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She's all but screaming for you to ask her out...I'm a bit surprised she hasn't given up yet to be honest, ask her on a date already!
 
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Got the last e mail with her cell Monday (albeit I had her card already - but she has my number too). Its only been a day. Can't be overzealous. Besides, I could be reading it wrong. Planning on calling her tonight for a short chat. Here's hoping I don't screw it up like all the others.
 
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I wouldn't have even done a fraction of what she did. Its only been one day and you can't be overzealous?
 
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