Coupon on a first date: help me settle an office debate


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Hey Advicers!

This topic just came up in the office and the consensus is pretty divided here. It's been discussed in the past but not very recently, so I thought I'd ask all of you:

In your opinion, is it acceptable to use a coupon to pay for dinner on a first date?

How about using a gift card?*

Thanks in advance for your responses and for the respectful discussion that is to follow (hint, hint!!!)

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-Lori

*thanks PY and am1uwant for the great add-on question!
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I say no coupons on a first date - unless you are in high school!
 
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I vote no because it sends a message that you think the date is only worth a bargain outing.

I would prefer that my date chose an inexpensive location or make it clear in advance that he wants to split the bill if he is concerned about the cost.

Save the coupon for setting up a follow-up date at the end of date 1.... then you can say something like "Hey, I've got this coupon, do you want to try this place.."
 
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I work in a restaurant, so coupons do not bother me. The economy sucks right now.

ETA...you do not have to pay the bill right in front of your date ya know. Pay the check when she/he goes to the bathroom.
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I would bring a coupon if it had already been established that he would be paying for the date (if I didn't think he would mind) or if we were splitting the tab (why not save us both some money?). But if I was treating him I think I'd leave the coupon for another time.
 
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If I had a coupon for a nice place that I thought was a good deal why not? This shows two things early on A) I work for a non-profit and have to budget (yes yes some people will say if you can't afford to date than don't date but it is silly to not use a coupon if it saves you a few bucks that you could use elsewhere) and B) I don't subscribe to normal dating rules and dating me is a real experience you are either ready for it or not.
 
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I would prefer somewhere less expensive over using a coupon.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
Hey Advicers!

This topic just came up in the office and the consensus is pretty divided here. It's been discussed in the past but not very recently, so I thought I'd ask all of you:

In your opinion, is it acceptable to use a coupon to pay for dinner on a first date?

Thanks in advance for your responses and for the respectful discussion that is to follow (hint, hint!!!)

Best,
-Lori
I'd play it safe and not use coupons. Safe that for later. Although it's like women who offer, but make 'mental note', if I EVER be in that situation, a woman who is fine with coupons, shows financial sensibility and that's a plus with me...and I do believe when it comes to financial situation, you have to be able to look at it from a less romantic point of view (yes ladies, I'm single, shocking eh?)

I can think of maybe limited scenarios....one would be if we try to decide on a restaurant and I said..hey, I've always wanted to eat at *such and such* place and I just got a voucher for dinner for two from my company...or just got a gift card for my birthday, etc...you want to go there?

If this is labeled as being cheap, tacky or unromantic, or untactful, or...or...or....then mwuah I give you an air-kiss and I bid you adieu! Plus I know that some who responded this wouldn't be compatible with me anyway. Also...I wouldn't use coupon for some cheap place....(cause some of y'all wouldn't wanna go to those places on a first date anyway).

But just wanted to say again...I've never been in this situation and never really try to take the chance on it.
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greeneyedlillies wrote :
I work in a restaurant, so coupons do not bother me. The economy sucks right now.

ETA...you do not have to pay the bill right in front of your date ya know. Pay the check when she/he goes to the bathroom.
I bet you three coupons to Arby's...that if some women find out that their dates supplement their bills with coupons, it'll make them feel less 'special'...but I ain't the one who slipped on a banana peel and bump my head, so I don't know!
 
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I think it's really up to the person who's paying for the date to make the call, and the other person really doesn't have a say at all. Quite frankly, if a person thinks they're "too good" for this, then this probably isn't the only thing they have a hang up about, imho. Get a dose of the real world and take a look at the economy, if nothing else. I'm not really into the whole, "Look at me on my pedestal" mentality, either, which is usually garnered by those who I know who get bent out of shape over coupons on the first date (or any date, for that matter).
 
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