Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  January 30,2010, 6:22pm
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ami1uwant are you D_Lion in disguise?
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
A good judge to know the risk of pass relationships coming back to bite you on your arse is to look at:

single= how long since the last break up (weeks).

new= time spend in the relationship with you (weeks)

time= how long did the relationship last (weeks)

serious= seriousness relationship factor (0-10). O was a fling, a long term relationship would be a score 4-6, add 1 or 2 if it was a live in relationship. Engaged 5-9. If it was a marriage then it would be 7-10.

break-up= how did the relatonship end (1-10). Trust was broken would produce a 7-10 score, a drifting apart would be a lower score (4-6). Having it end out of the blue unexpectedly that you were really hurt would be a low score (1-3). Lower the score---the more likely you would take them back if they showed up knocking at the door wanting you back.

risk= time * [serious/break-up]- (single + new)

The lower the number the lower the risk in the relationship.


Your thoughts........
You are missing something in your equation. You need a reason factor. You also need a who factor.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #23  January 30,2010, 7:35pm
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ami1uwant are you D_Lion in disguise?

I the alter ego of Jussmile
 
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I the alter ego of Jussmile

In that case, gimme all your money!
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
A good judge to know the risk of pass relationships coming back to bite you on your arse is to look at:

single= how long since the last break up (weeks).

new= time spend in the relationship with you (weeks)

time= how long did the relationship last (weeks)

serious= seriousness relationship factor (0-10). O was a fling, a long term relationship would be a score 4-6, add 1 or 2 if it was a live in relationship. Engaged 5-9. If it was a marriage then it would be 7-10.

break-up= how did the relatonship end (1-10). Trust was broken would produce a 7-10 score, a drifting apart would be a lower score (4-6). Having it end out of the blue unexpectedly that you were really hurt would be a low score (1-3). Lower the score---the more likely you would take them back if they showed up knocking at the door wanting you back.

risk= time * [serious/break-up]- (single + new)

The lower the number the lower the risk in the relationship.


Your thoughts........
After some careful consideration (and drinking) I have refined the definitions of Ami's equation.

Single - time since last break up - can be weeks, days, months, years (geesh, I hope not years)

New - how long in the new relationship (must use same days, weeks, months, years as "Single")

Time - Length of time previous relationship lasted (must use same days, weeks, months, years as "Single")

Serious - 0 is a fling, 1-3 would be less than one year, 4-6 more than one year but less than five (possible ring involved), 7-10 would be live in/marriage. May also equate this with emotions involved?

Break up - 0 would be you just poofed on each other, 1-3 would be the other poofed on you, 4-6 would be drifted apart, 7-10 would be an emotional blow out/adultery/some other trust issue.

example with real (yeah, right, like I'm gonna tell you all that) numbers.

risk= time * [serious/break-up]- (single + new)

Time (3 years) * [4 (serious)/10 (breakup)] - (2 (years single) + 1 (years in new relationship) = RISK -1.8

Hmmm, gosh that took a long time! Ami! Did I do it right?

Better have, I have a date to go on.
 
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In that case, gimme all your money!
I've already told you... you can have as many of the kids you want. those are a lot more valuable . Jeeze!
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
I think it is verses a fail relationship.
Verses? So it's poetry then, is it?
 
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What the hell? I came up with a risk of -3.25? Who's funky math IS this?
 
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OK, just did my real math and got a big ole goose egg again. Hmmm?
 
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