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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  January 30,2010, 1:50pm
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How many times have you started communicating with someone, feel the chemistry, things are going well... then... POOF !! For no reason at all, they are gone, don't respond, just... disappear. I believe the glass is half full all the time, and starting to think that you shouldn't even look at a glass until you meet the water... does that make sense?

It seems online dating is such a carp shoot. So many people to go through, filter, begin communication with. I'm new to online dating, but learning quick lessons by just throwing myself into the mix. Seems like people on this board have been at it for a while. What are the lessons that you've learned that can help people who are just starting out. For me, the biggest one I think I'm learning is don't get your hopes up until "it" actually happens. Until then, take it easy and enjoy.
 
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What are the lessons that you've learned that can help people who are just starting out.

Just because you can see the nut, doesn't mean the nut likes you, wants you, etc.
 
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"Can I make the nut come to me, or at least send a text message at an oppotune moment?"
 
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Oh...lessee....I have learned that people can be whoever they want online and may be completely different in person.

I have learned to not let the poofers get to me, it probably isn't anything I did, just that someone better/closer came into play.

I have learned to go into the first date with no expectations, just show up to be myself and have fun because you will learn something from the experience one way or another.

I have learned that sometimes I'm my own best company and I will be okay no matter what.

By coming back to the advice boards, I have learned that I'm not the only one going through this whole krap shoot.
 
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Many nut consumers eat unripe nuts on the tree or ripe nuts from the ground, with no reproductive benefit to the nut. However, some nut predators also serve as seed dispersal agents. Players and women that scatter-hoard nuts in caches for future use, effectively plant nuts in a variety of locations in which it is possible for them to germinate and thrive.
 
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talldrinkowater wrote :
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Your carp is vintage.
 
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I think you have picked up on the major one, most everything else is personal style I believe. Be the way you are and stick to it IMHO - as in if you usually reply to everyone even if it is to say "thanks, but no thanks," well, be consistent in that, if you know what I mean.

Personally I think that you will be better off being polite whenever possible, no matter what happens. But that's just me.

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D_Lion wrote :
Many nut consumers eat unripe nuts on the tree or ripe nuts from the ground, with no reproductive benefit to the nut. However, some nut predators also serve as seed dispersal agents. Players and women that scatter-hoard nuts in caches for future use, effectively plant nuts in a variety of locations in which it is possible for them to germinate and thrive.

I'm must be experiencing a case of temporary insanity... I actually understand what you are saying here.
 
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