Can Flaky People Make Good Partners?

Can Flaky People Make Good Partners?

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #21  January 29,2010, 3:17pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Fleuellen wrote :
yes i can

So can I!


But then again I can also choose what to remember and what to forget!
 
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SactoDoug is offline SactoDoug Post #22  January 29,2010, 3:17pm
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is wondering why he can't get no satisfaction.

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insertscreenname wrote :
Sanctimonious BS.
When all arguements fail, attack the one making the arguments.

I think the bottom line is that you ran out of excuses for his bad behavior. In every other instance that I can think of past bad behavior is no excuse for current bad behavior.

If the boyfriend in question has a bad habit of putting his dirty shoes on her dining room table, that is no excuse for him to do it again today, tomorrow or ever. If she invites him into her house for dinner that is not an invitation to put his shoes on her table even if she knows he likes to do it.
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #23  January 29,2010, 3:20pm
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
I find it hard to believe all the flake bashers have never forgot to do something they told someone they would do.

Occasionally I do forget something but I am still the one everyone relies on when they need something done.

Yep, good post. (I see the invisible lame person gave it one star, so I'll make another shortly, to cover that issue.)

There is a world of difference between "forgetfullnes" and "flaky," which really means apathetic toward others.

Sincere forgetful people develop countermeasures; flakes think only of themselves.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :

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Much better!
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #25  January 29,2010, 3:35pm

blames self-help books

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Much better!
For that you deserve a kiss! *kiss*

You have made my day!
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #26  January 29,2010, 3:40pm
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I bet the lame person wishes they had a Kiss !!!
 
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insertscreenname is offline insertscreenname Post #27  January 29,2010, 3:41pm
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... is like a nice warm vibratey feeling all through your guttiwuts.

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SactoDoug wrote :
When all arguements fail, attack the one making the arguments.

I think the bottom line is that you ran out of excuses for his bad behavior.
LOL! Nice try.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #28  January 29,2010, 3:42pm
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lacedwithhope wrote :
Good article! I think we've all experienced the charisma of the person who's great but who we can't really count on. It's so frustrating. These are powerful words -- and I try to live by them:

"Say what you mean, and do what you say you are going to do. Always."


It depends if they are frosted...
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #29  January 29,2010, 3:52pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I never thought 'flaky' simply meant forgetful. I thought it also meant inconsistent, slightly strange, 'creative', off at a tangent, possibly very clever, bit ditzy, has problems with the real world sort of person.

I also think the man on the 'flaky' profile picture for the thread is nice looking.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #30  January 29,2010, 4:20pm
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"For a relationship to achieve excellence, both partners must act responsibly. They need to keep their word and honor commitments. If a woman says, “I’ll call you tonight,” she should do it. If a man says, “I’ll meet you for lunch at twelve o’clock sharp,” he should be there on the dot. If one or both persons are consistently negligent, the relationship is sure to suffer."

I think these are very good points...
Sure, everyone forgets things...as you get older it happens more frequently, trust me, but when you can't count on someone to keep their word, all their credibility goes out the window.


The bottom line is: Do what you say you are going to do.
 
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