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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  January 27,2010, 5:02pm
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This discussion was started in the BE-ATCH thread, and was suggested that we do a spin-off. Many people are asking the question of whether money is important when you start dating, what criteria should be used to start dating, and does your own personal financial situation and lifestyle have anything to do with who you'll choose to date. There was mention of a 4 tier dating system, where 4 is the high $ tier. I added in a 5th tier! The rest, and the actual dollars associated with the tiers, are up in question. Since everyone has different perspective of Super High, High, Medium, Low, and Super Low when it comes to salary, it would be interesting to see if we could come to agreement on what $alary range falls in each tier.

I'll start... this is my view of the Tiers:

1st (Super Low): $50k and below
2nd (Low): $50k - $75k
3rd (Medium): $75k - $150k
4th (High): $150k - $300k (someone else had suggested high should start at $750k)
5th (a): $300k and above
5th (b): $3M (amount in the bank or liquid assets)

In my opinion this represents gross annual income; keeping it clean. If a person has net worth (in the bank or liquid assets) over a certain amount, that should be automatic placement in the 5th tier. I would keep it clean although I know there are a number of other variables out there.
 
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If you is a CENSORED enough to attract what you claim to want, whatcha doing here all the dang time?!
 
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I would not go below the "Tier 3" in marketable skills, but I will go below if she does not have the current income, due to being a student, out of work, or working in a position which pays a below-market wage when she has a reason for doing so.

In other words, the long term earning power is a primary screen.

Also, regardless of a woman's income, she must fund her own consumption and not endanger me.
 
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Seems that the proper term for women who worry unduly about a guy's income is gold digger.

Maybe you need to change your name?
 
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If you is a CENSORED enough to attract what you claim to want, whatcha doing here all the dang time?!
One could ask you the same question.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Seems that the proper term for women who worry unduly about a guy's income is gold digger.

Maybe you need to change your name?
I gotta agree with that. All I care about in terms of income is that he can support his own obligations, I can take care of me just fine and expect to do so.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
One could ask you the same question.

I admit that I am too poor to attract what I want. I have always admitted this.
 
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Contango wrote :
I gotta agree with that. All I care about in terms of income is that he can support his own obligations, I can take care of me just fine and expect to do so.

What are "obligations?"

If you develop a relationship and wish to live together, do his "obligations" become half of how you wish to live?

Do "obligations" include the ability to provide for children, quality education, medical care?

I agree explicitly with your post, but I can define this well into six-figures readily.
 
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You've got a pretty skewed definition of what average is. Here's what % of US households fall in each of your brackets (source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Househo..._United_States):

1st (Super Low): $50k and below -- 54.87%

2nd (Low): $50k - $75k -- 18.3%

3rd (Medium): $75k - $150k -- 11.13%

4th (High): $150k - $300k -- ~15% (cutoff number I found was actually $250k)

5th (a): $300k and above -- 1.5%

So to be of "medium" wealth by your standards, you have to personally have an income that's higher than that of 73% of households in the US.

If you want to divide the country in to quintiles, here's what the ranges should be:

Very Low: $18,500 or below
Low: $18,500-$34,750
Medium: $34,750-$55,300
High: $55,300-$88,000
Very High: $88,000 or above
(Elite, top 5%): $157,000 or above
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D_Lion wrote :
What are "obligations?"

If you develop a relationship and wish to live together, do his "obligations" become half of how you wish to live?
As long as that flows both ways, sure.

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Do "obligations" include the ability to provide for children, quality education, medical care?
If those are a factor, sure. I haven't any kids and do not plan to have them so for me personally it's a moot point.

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I agree explicitly with your post, but I can define this well into six-figures readily.
Depends on your lifestyle and/or where you live. Here in Michigan $100k is quite well off these days LOL.
 
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