The Secret of Sex Appeal

The Secret of Sex Appeal

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Wren is offline Wren Post #81  February 8,2008, 8:21pm
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I agree that looks are important, but a good part of it is charm.Most people are attractedby someone with a nice smile, andthey also especially enjoy being with someone who's interested in whatthey have to say. I've been married a very long time, and my husband always says that he loves that I'm such a good listener.But then he's got a delightful sense of humor and for me that counts for a lot.
 
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Debi,48347 wrote :
I was happily surprised that your article went way beyond the Usual Physical Things! So many of the 'beautiful people', movie stars, etc. are so much in 'love' in the beginning of their short marriage. The lust always wears off...then they find there was little else between them. When I was younger I was so surprised when the husband (or wife) was unfaithful after such a short time together. And being married to one of the most beautiful woman or handsome man in the world! You explained why, to so many that haven't figured it out. The happiest married couple (37 years) I've known...communicate, kiss & cuddle, argue, but don't cut each other down, & laugh a lot. Sex is no longer #1 on their list. Loving each other is. Debi
I like what Debi has to say, Yeah Debi !!!!
 
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"Second, get yourself powerfully loved at the deepest of levels—loved in a durable way, loved unconditionally."

That's the real challenge, isn't it? I wish the article would have said how to accomplish that!
 
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ronaldwill is offline ronaldwill Post #84  February 17,2008, 10:59am
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This articlle was so informative and inspiring. I never though of sex appeal on a another level besides physical but now I can relate to the whole package. I think I will use this advise to better my whole self and not just my body. Thank you for the info. Ron
 
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Great article... couldn't agree more that sex appeal is so much more than physical attraction... so many people think of sex appeal being only the physicalelement but when you are fortunate to havefound true love - you know it when you love to hear the person speak... when they engage great conversation... when you genuinely listen to what they have to say not because you have to but because you want to. You love them for their mind. They blow you away with whatever they have to say... then you are finding your way to their soul... through the mind... I think that is the essence of true love. Butoh is it so much more.True amazing loveexistswhen twosouls cannot be denied regardless of time, space or matter. You can do everything in your power to deny the love, but the soul is gonna win out... because of destiny, universe or the laws of the soul thatare unexplainable.

What is even more amazing is to feel the blessing when someone loves you so much that you are uplifted and brought to a magical place where time, space or matter is non existent.This would be my interpretation what it feels liketo be truly loved by your soul mate.



 
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I am really confused. If "sex appeal" revolves, mostly, around God, then why is it that his book, The Bible, says not to have sex for pleasure. I keep seeing people refer to one's soul, but according to my personal beliefs, that is the one part of you that will go to Heaven, after your physical body dies... I definitely do not want to appear to God as having a "sexy" soul.
 
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Thank you. You have just defined healthy sex appeal. A side note, when we attend to all three areas, we are not so "needy" and we make much better choices about the people we allow close to us. Because we are more whole, we look at them in a more holistic way as well.
 
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Intensely awesome article!!! I personally got into "Meditation" about 10 yrs. ago, shorthy after my husband passed. (( He had just turned 38 & had a heat attack )) At that time, I actually got into meditation to help with a problems of " Stress, Grief & Insomnia ". It now has actually become a daily ritual, that has helped in so many areas. But the main one...was getting in touch with my inner self, I can see exactly how this would work, as a form of inner cleansing and aventually shine through, making one complete and loving. But have to admidt....I never thought about it in the way of .."Sex Appeal".. Thanks! for this perspective....



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pineapplegoat,48188 wrote :
my husband and i have been together for 25 years. only when we understood the whole mind body soul thing did our relationship flourish into an eternal love affair. he says if i died he would die and i feel the same way.
this is so beautiful; i was married just 8 mos ago to someone i've known 5 1/2 yrs; this is what i want; i guess i've been trying too hard because now he says i've pushed him away; keep sharing this inspiration
 
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acehaul is offline acehaul Post #90  February 29,2008, 12:29pm
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who needs sex appeal anyway if u aint gonna give it up its just hype
 
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