The Secret of Sex Appeal

The Secret of Sex Appeal

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Verity27 is offline Verity27 Post #161  July 17,2008, 3:12am
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annie123,173838 wrote :

sex appeal comes from percieved passion
Isn't that a bit esoteric? While I agree sex appeal is a matter of perception, there are definitely people who exude... sexual tension & appeal. Hmm...


Dan does that qualify as defineable or doesn't it exist??[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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yes i agreed the points
 
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I so appreciate this article. It gives voice to a huge piece of valuable information about relationships. ..information that is often hidden and causes much pain. Bravo!
 
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harmonygirl is offline harmonygirl Post #164  July 17,2008, 5:09pm
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I really liked this article--it sends you in such a different direction than what the world seems to say!! And it's true, especially in my own life. How sad to know someone or to think you do and then after learning more of their personaolity traits seeing that attraction fade because the most important thing is how you treat each other. What is in your soul is soooo important. I say bravo to this article--thanks.
 
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You words are inspiring and beatiful but not realistic in todays instant gratification world. I have been in a number of serious relationships (including a marriage of 20 years) and people do just don't read minds and definitely stretch themselves to look into your soul. I wish it was so but it is not. Those people that are patient, deep, kind and loving enough to do that are married or in the clergy. People have no time to really search they look for instant attraction (looks, outer personality, confidence, success, etc) because these are easily measurable attributes. My experience is that if you don't measure up like a piece of fruit from the get go your out. Check out any online dating site if you want a taste of reality. Looks, out going personalty (fabriacted or not) and confidence is what is demand.


Maybe one day society in general will evolve to look deeper than the surface for true character and soul but thats not the case in the current singles society.
 
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This is good stuff. My girl friend adores me, wants to be with me and absorb every part of me. I've never seen anything like it. I'm a stocky guy, keep myself sylish and clean, and am deeply spiritual on a level consistent with knowing who I am and my place in life. My girl is drawn to my strengths and makes me feel very special.
 
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This article was "on point". Sexy is being physically, intellectually, and spiritually attractive.
 
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I was pleased to read an article that went beyond the purely physical. In response to skikatmandu's comment below, I think that at the beginning, the physical aspect weighs most heavily. As you get to know a person more, this is when intellectual depth and spiritual depth 'come into play' and can determine the longevity of a relationship. The hard part is practicing it...especially the part in the article about 'getting your soul healthy'...this takes a long time and is a work in progress...for me at least!
 
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i ENJOYED THE ARTICLE, AND i AGREED WITH IT COMPLETELY. i HAVE MET PEOPLE WHO i FELTED HAVE SEX APPLEAL; AND i DID RELATE TO THE TOTAL PERSON'S MIND, BODY, AND SOUL. i HAVE BEEN COMPLIMENTARILY DESCRIBED AS HAVING SEX APPLEAL, AND AS BEING A PEOPLE MAGNET. i DO ENJOY MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND i BELIEVE THAT IT SHOWS. i BELIEVE EVERY ONE i MEET HAS SOMETHING TO TEACH ME ABOUT MYSELF AND ABOUT HIM OR HER, AND i AM ALWAYS INTERESTED TO KNOW JUST WHAT THAT IS.
THANK YOU FOR THE ARTICLE AND i LOOK FORWARD TO READING MANY MORE......VICTORIA
 
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Okay, the article is both great and accurate in my opinion BUT!!!As soon as you are next to a very young"hottie" in skimpy clothes and who is flirting with the men around, your sex appeal, soul, etc. will no longer matter (to the men at least).


Today's society is raising an army of very young hoes. In about 5 years, it is only going to get worse. Sex appeal will (for the mainstream male) be about being inappropriately young and horny. There will be plenty of kids to entertain...you should check out 12 year olds myspaces sometimes.


Why the shift in sex appeal??? Are you kidding me??? TV, itunes, myspace, internet, advertisements, comics, preteen mags (you should check out the back), movies, radio talk, radio music, radio advertisements. Truely these young kids hear nothing else but sex and they are our future of sex appeal. MOST are sexually active (you are wrong, and they are lying to you if they tell you otherwise) and not sex in loving relationship....Sex w/ friend and in public settings!!! I have many friend who are young kids and they confide this in me.


Men are responding and think its HOT! I am regularly amazed at how many men will stare and drool at very young girls (WAY more than a few years back). How society has shifted, sexualizing kids, has truely changed a grown mans idea of sex appeal.


I am currently writing two books to inform kids and parents and non-parenting adults about sexual health. It will include, most importantly, how neurological changes are occuring in our brains.


I am a neurologist and biochemist. I am a concerned member of society about what sex appeal is.
 
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