stevex is offline stevex Post #1  January 24,2010, 7:49am
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I spent about 7 hours with the girlfriend yesterday, had an amazing time and it reinforced for me that she is just right for me. Maybe I am rushing into things too soon, maybe I am being silly to think that I am in love but she is amazing and never before have I had the feelings that I have. A guy I know who is an acquaintance of mine who is significantly older than I scoffed at the idea that at 21 I would be in a relationship. He says when he was 21 it was all about getting sex and that he knows plenty of guys who are now his age who regret that when they were 21 they didn't "play around". I pretty much scoffed at this idea, but I was curious what others thought.

I am not talking about marriage here, but I consider myself in a committed relationship, I care deeply about my girlfriend and the reason the conversation came up was that he was joking about hooking me up with this one lady and I commented back "I don't think the girlfriend would be very happy with that" which is when he kind of laughed and started talking about how you can't be in a committed relationship at 21.

I think you can, I am and I am very happy. What do YOU think?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  January 24,2010, 7:55am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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There are men who are more oriented toward getting as much casual sex as they can....and others who are more interested in a long term relationship, even at a relatively young age. A difference in personality type I guess. I say go with what feels right for you.
 
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I think that you should be true to yourself.

Personally I don't think much of your friends values, but to each his or her own.
 
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I think your friend is very shallow. He probably just hasn't met the right person. You should go with and trust your own feelings.

If you have the right person being in a committed relationship is great !!
 
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Yep... All of the above. What is right for you?
 
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I agree with most of the above. I think your friend is shallow and needs to grow up, or at least stop giving purile advice to young men. I do disagree with one thing that was said above. I don't think it's because this guy hasn't met the right person. I think it's because he hasn't become the right person.
 
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I do find it interesting the number of guys that I see who feel it is a numbers game, and even in high school I never thought that. I have always been a one woman man as the song goes and even in college guy friends of mine told me what I needed was to just have fun and not worry about relationships. Though, I personally feel that I enjoy the company of my current partner much more than I would enjoy a one night stand or serious of casual sex partners.
 
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Like others have said, do what fits for you. A good committed relationship can give you far more emotionally, intellectually, and even physically that casual dating and sleeping around don't.

I'd say you sound far more mature than most guys your age. Honestly, I knew you were pretty young, but I had nol idea just how young, because based on your posts you have a ton of maturity for your age.
 
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stevex wrote :
A guy I know who is an acquaintance of mine who is significantly older than I scoffed at the idea that at 21 I would be in a relationship. He says when he was 21 it was all about getting sex and that he knows plenty of guys who are now his age who regret that when they were 21 they didn't "play around". I pretty much scoffed at this idea, but I was curious what others thought.

I think your friend is more likely be the star in the public-service advertisement to be avoiding the STD than you are.

I'd tell him that, and tell him off.

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I've been reading the stories in the local paper about the men killed in Afganistan and Iraq - very many of them had a wife and one or more children at 21.

Being exclusive is fine, and I would ignore commentary from the peanut gallery sugggesting otherwise.
 
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stevex wrote :
I personally feel that I enjoy the company of my current partner much more than I would enjoy a one night stand or serious of casual sex partners.

Research supports your feeling.
 
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