When she ends a date with, "Call Me," does she really want me to?


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redcats is offline redcats Post #111  March 9,2010, 6:19pm
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I'm from the old school, and believes that the man should make the initiative and call the woman that he is interested in. He should ask her for her phone number first, then, call her.
 
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...Well there's my dating history ladies and gents. I am now 31, never thought it'd go so fast (as we all do I'm sure), but here we are.

If I can say anything about dating it is that its not about who you are anymore, its you representing yourself because either you're too shy, too gaurded, too something that both of you don't want to show just yet. Am I right so far? It's been that way for me because I am so shy around people, men in particular. And I hear from some men that if a woman is shy, thatere's nothing upstairs!?! Okay, let them think that when our first date has ended for the rest of our lives ladies. Now, if I'm on a date I try to remember that and get past it and man-up! See how comfortable they are when I talk about REAL things. Real things in the world I care about, things I'm passionate about. I don't care if they don't like what I'm saying. If they don't want to hear about me, which is half the reason they're out on a date with me, then who needs 'em? If I can find a guy, on the first date I can have a conversation with that doesn't have to do with mindless small talk (I've done that-still single and I'm still hopeful that I'll find that guy who just wants to sit and talk a little, and if that conversation forms to a little flirting then that's a plus. The butterflies! I miss them. They are rare. If he could only skip the small talk I think I'd be more comfortable. Guys and some ladies think that if you talk about your life - BOOM- baggage. But its just life. Everyone has it. What is the big deal. We're thirty-not teenagers. But you know when you do find that guy that you can just TALK to about anything...hopes, passions, fears, dislikes, likes - then it becomes something more than a date. It kind of begins like a friendship. And that is what I hope for everytime I step out there. And if I can't meet a guy like that again then don't cry for me. I still have the one who listened. Memories are prescious. Even if it didn't work out I have to remember the good stuff. The intimacy that two people can have who only knew each other at that present time for an hour - a night. It doesn't make me resentful because I know there was that guy who knew me, who cared, who listened. And said I was special. At the time I had no idea why, but in time you know and you're content. Maybe not content to be an old maid, but to relax and finally know what to look for. When you know what you want exactly! And can take the good with the bad. Not too bad but in comparison with the other guys? He a sweet breeze. And then you can handle anything. I've had two serious relationships. One very bad one and one great one. A great one. But the part that we're not together makes sense now. It makes me see and sets you up for what comes next. Maybe I'm preaching, Idon't know...am I? I just wanted all the questions and sorrows to be lightened. Time passes and you're left with you. You have to be content, love yourself. And whoever that next guy is, good or bad, you can handle it because you know what you want.
so why get down, sleep around with the guy not right for you? I hope everyone could sit back and watch the image in that mirror change. The fear goes away. The panic. The isolation. It does. It just takes time and some heavy thinking. About you...not him or her! Thanks for listening. I hope it helped. Goodnight all.
 
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wow - this is an awfully long thread considering that the all of the responders agree that the answer to the question "should I call" is yes. I kept reading, thinking that the OP must have given us an update if there are 12 pages devoted to his question. But nope, no update. Just person after person saying to call. So OP, have you?????
 
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It depends the "Call Me" from a woman after a date, especially a first date MUST be back up by positive body language which shows she is interested in you. If undecided call once after the date, her first response is usually a good calling card to determine if she really meant it.
 
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