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rybelles wrote :
I'm 40. I just had a new match close me and the reason he gave was "I believe the age difference is TOO great" or something like that.

Really? Dude..your are 37.
That's funny; I just got closed out for the first time for that reason by a 47 year-old; I'm 50. I didn't even think about it till I saw your post, but it didn't occur to me to feel bothered by it, but that might be because I'm also hesitant to date younger as a rule.


You're right, though; 3 years really isn't that big of a deal, and it kind of surprises me that a 30-something used that reason. In my experience it's usually the late 40-somethings and older (and many of them unfit and unattractive) who think they are worthy of women from 10-20 years younger up to their own age, or maybe a few years younger.
- January 21st, 2010, 11:22 pm
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Maybe he misread the age and thought it said 50? lol ... I wouldn't let it bother you.
- January 22nd, 2010, 03:30 am
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Overall I'd say many late 30's guys won't date someone 40+ years old. However, it's not strictly that she's older. A late 20's would be more likely to date a 30+ woman and a 21 year old would definitely date a 24-26 year old woman.

What you really have coming into play are two things (some people mentioned the first):
1) Guys that haven't been married by their late 30's are looking for a woman they can start a family with. It's easier and safer for a mid-30's woman to have children than 40+.

2) Many woman begin to loose their looks in their late 30's and early 40's. It's a double standard but wrinkles on a guy is considered ok, but on a woman is considered unattractive.

Overall I'd say you are better off when people reject you over superficial things. For example, if a woman rejects me because she wants a rich man, then I know she is too materialistic for me and consider myself lucky.
- January 22nd, 2010, 07:59 am
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doesn't it boil down to the fact that most guys (regardless of age - after 30) like to date younger women?

btw - I had a 67yo guy contact me yesterday. I'm pretty open and flexible with whom I'll date (when I was looking for a date), but sorry, that IS too old (for me)!!
- January 22nd, 2010, 08:01 am
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Wait until you're nearly fifty. Then, all the idiots will leave you alone.

It simply clears the path for the ones worth bothering over.

I could not have said that better. And for the dating game, I am REALLY, unimaginably ancient to be out there, according to some.

Despite this, I am really happy.

People like that who reject you for your age only, don't even KNOW you, or who you ARE, I would pay it no mind.

And keep an open mnd. I met someone eight years older than me in REAL LIFE, not online, and wow, so pretty, upbeat, and joyful, despite some health concerns.
- January 22nd, 2010, 08:29 am
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robv_la wrote :
Overall I'd say many late 30's guys won't date someone 40+ years old. However, it's not strictly that she's older. A late 20's would be more likely to date a 30+ woman and a 21 year old would definitely date a 24-26 year old woman.

What you really have coming into play are two things (some people mentioned the first):
1) Guys that haven't been married by their late 30's are looking for a woman they can start a family with. It's easier and safer for a mid-30's woman to have children than 40+.

2) Many woman begin to loose their looks in their late 30's and early 40's. It's a double standard but wrinkles on a guy is considered ok, but on a woman is considered unattractive.

Overall I'd say you are better off when people reject you over superficial things. For example, if a woman rejects me because she wants a rich man, then I know she is too materialistic for me and consider myself lucky.
While I agree with #1, I disagree with #2. There are plenty of good looking women in the 40s much better than those in the 20s....just look at Teri Hatcher...Heather Locklear...Ming Na Wen..ok bad example lol.

Let me throw another twist....my friend in his mid-upper 30s and he just recently got his first ever relationship (with a 24 year old)...in his situation and as mean as this sound...he mentally can't handle being in a relationship with somebody his age...since he always calls me every other day asking me the simplest questions about relationships.

Kinda also like many women keep saying that they prefer somebody older than they are..usually followed with a statement like "Women mature faster mentally than me" (yeah love that...)

or some women prefer dating younger men, cause older men are stereotyped as being not as physically able as the young bucks in bed.
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- January 22nd, 2010, 09:58 am
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[quote=6dle899;859540]I could not have said that better. And for the dating game, I am REALLY, unimaginably ancient to be out there, according to some.

Despite this, I am really happy.

People like that who reject you for your age only, don't even KNOW you, or who you ARE, I would pay it no mind.

And keep an open mnd. I met someone eight years older than me in REAL LIFE, not online, and wow, so pretty, upbeat, and joyful, despite some health concerns.
- January 22nd, 2010, 10:02 am
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PY_2 wrote :
While I agree with #1, I disagree with #2. There are plenty of good looking women in the 40s much better than those in the 20s....just look at Teri Hatcher...Heather Locklear...Ming Na Wen..ok bad example lol.

Let me throw another twist....my friend in his mid-upper 30s and he just recently got his first ever relationship (with a 24 year old)...in his situation and as mean as this sound...he mentally can't handle being in a relationship with somebody his age...since he always calls me every other day asking me the simplest questions about relationships.

Kinda also like many women keep saying that they prefer somebody older than they are..usually followed with a statement like "Women mature faster mentally than me" (yeah love that...)

or some women prefer dating younger men, cause older men are stereotyped as being not as physically able as the young bucks in bed.
PY, don't get me wrong, I will date women in their 40's but there is a lot of veracity to what Rob is saying. Terri Hatcher and Heather Locklear have both had plastic surgery--more than once. Celebs have personal trainers, dieticians, and the means to stay in shape that most women don't. And when one gets a close look at Terri Hatcher or Heather Locklear, they both look a bit rough (compared with younger women, of course).

Don't take my word for it---check out this link of celebrities without makeup.

Celebrities Without Makeup

......and just for fun, here's some more celebs---without makeup! (I love makeup on a woman!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEfg7OxVqSc
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PY, don't get me wrong, I will date women in their 40's but there is a lot of veracity to what Rob is saying. Terri Hatcher and Heather Locklear have both had plastic surgery--more than once. Celebs have personal trainers, dieticians, and the means to stay in shape that most women don't. And when one gets a close look at Terri Hatcher or Heather Locklear, they both look a bit rough (compared with younger women, of course).

Don't take my word for it---check out this link of celebrities without makeup.

Celebrities Without Makeup
I don't get your point. Female celebrities of any age look different without their glamour makeup (often drastically so). They just look more like the rest of the women in the world when they go without.

And seriously, if you follow that "the standard of beauty is youth," men's looks decline significantly as well. For every "distinguished looking" older man, there are many more who are overweight, with bad hair, sagging or mottled skin, etc. If you guys think you are continuing to get better looking each year, I've got news for you...lol.

We all age. There is no getting around it, whether you are male or female. No matter how much plastic surgery you can afford, you cannot erase the signs of age.

Many of us as we age begin to see beauty in those older faces as well, though. And lots of younger people do, too (the most recent man to see me as beautiful and pursue me is 14 years my junior, so go figure...). It's easy for an older person to appreciate the beauty of youth (more difficult sometimes for the young, actually). But, there is much to appreciate and find truly beautiful even in someone--male or female--who has earned a few wrinkles.
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That is neat 6die. I don't think you are ever too old to seek out companionship and it's nice to see you found someone.
Thank you!

No, no, no, its not" 6DIE " !!!!!!!! Despite your possible thinking that I have one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel!!!!






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- January 22nd, 2010, 11:04 am
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