Should I Simply Forget It And Move On...Or Question The Obvious Cop Out?


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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #11  January 16,2010, 7:27am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The same argument can be said to guys. Don't over-invest in the girl.

Of course the downside is that we may never connect with each other because neither is going to invest any time or emotion into the other.
Its better than wasting ones time on someone that isnt serious about getting to know me or in a relationship in general.

I think men tend to be more emotionally detached overall anyway, so its more of a non-issue for them. its the women that tend to have a problem with this more than men.
 
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As others have said, I don't see a cop out either.

He has been quite plain that he is no longer interested in you. It does not matter what his reason is. As I remember all your posts on this subject / guy this is not a LTR where you have had a disagreement and then ended the relationship. This is relatively short term and he really does not owe you a detailed explanation as to why he is no longer interested. He has tried to let you down easy. Also as I recall this relationship moved very rapidly. The faster they flame and the hotter they burn the sooner they will die out.

The problem you are having is that you are completely smitten with him and you don't want to accept that he is no longer interested. Let it go!
 
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Nanette wrote :
Its better than wasting ones time on someone that isnt serious about getting to know me or in a relationship in general.

I think men tend to be more emotionally detached overall anyway, so its more of a non-issue for them. its the women that tend to have a problem with this more than men.
Nanette, I disagree with this. Males are every bit as emotionally invested in a relationship. We just have a tendency to keep them bottled up. Boys are raised from the day they are born to not show emotion. Boys don't cry, if we get hurt we keep it all inside and suck it up and move on.
 
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Yes, and the sooner the better.
 
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