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Avalon1k is offline Avalon1k Post #21  January 15,2010, 7:51pm
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"She broke up with him last night. She was unhappy with him because he had trust issues with her."

Gee I wonder why?
 
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robv_la wrote :
This girl is an emotional mess. .
Holding back a generalization

Avalon1k wrote :
"She broke up with him last night. She was unhappy with him because he had trust issues with her."

Gee I wonder why?
Beat me to it

On flip side he (ex) might have (from date one) been controlling jealous type and it just took her time to realize (why it takes so many women so long to rid themselves of that crap I can only hypothesize).

I'd say go for it, but as others have cautioned, take it slow, be yourself.
 
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I don't know how old you are but you did mention "semester" and this is sounding all very high school and college ish.
It is a bit college-ish, seeing as how we are college students.

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Actually, I think she did the right thing. She knew she wanted out - technically she was still in, she did not want someone that "could be" to slip away, she let you know what is going on, she ended it with her bf, and now she let you know where she is at. Really, to me, she sounds like a keeper. And it sounds like you have figured that out already.

She was completely honest. Date her and figure out if you like her.
Right. My understanding is that they were on the outs for a long time. She said specifically that he was not treating her right, projecting problems from previous girlfriends onto her. She said they had been together about a year, and things were just not going in the right direction. Also she said her family didn't like him. Now, her family came to my church before all this started and I met them and had some good conversation. Doesn't count for anything right now, but I'm just sayin'.

Also we are both committed Christians and I feel like this is a little different than it sounds like "on paper".

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(BTW - From your posts that I have read, you seem like a keeper too.)
Thanks!

Anyway I'm going to tell her that I like her alot, I want to date her, and I want take it REALLY SLOW because of her breakup. I guess I'm just gonna take a risk on this one. I like doing ballsy things, it makes me feel alive.
 
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Georgetheman wrote :
Anyway I'm going to tell her that I like her alot, I want to date her, and I want take it REALLY SLOW because of her breakup. I guess I'm just gonna take a risk on this one. I like doing ballsy things, it makes me feel alive.
As long as you're doing those 3 things, and are telling her that you are, then yeah, take that risk!
 
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So she called me yesterday nearly in tears. "George... I need your help." She works through what she's trying to say, and she has a boyfriend. But he wants to break up with her.
My thoughts: if she's crying because her boyfriend is wants to break up with her, she is not ready to date anyone until she is over him. Unless they were tears of joy?
 
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Georgetheman wrote :
It is a bit college-ish, seeing as how we are college students.

Right. My understanding is that they were on the outs for a long time. She said specifically that he was not treating her right, projecting problems from previous girlfriends onto her. She said they had been together about a year, and things were just not going in the right direction. Also she said her family didn't like him. Now, her family came to my church before all this started and I met them and had some good conversation. Doesn't count for anything right now, but I'm just sayin'.

Also we are both committed Christians and I feel like this is a little different than it sounds like "on paper".

Thanks!

Anyway I'm going to tell her that I like her alot, I want to date her, and I want take it REALLY SLOW because of her breakup. I guess I'm just gonna take a risk on this one. I like doing ballsy things, it makes me feel alive.

Go for it! I agree with Wonderwoman and you.
 
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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #27  January 16,2010, 2:13pm
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My thoughts: if she's crying because her boyfriend is wants to break up with her, she is not ready to date anyone until she is over him. Unless they were tears of joy?
I think she was feeling overwhelmed with the decision. But the concern is valid.

But she definitely wanted to break up with him. (obviously)
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Take it slow,, the ex had trust issues,, and she has told you several things but your seeing only her side and when anyone relates information they will not put themselves in a bad light,, just go slow.
 
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