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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #21  January 15,2010, 6:05pm
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I get quite a few matches that are in the 55 range that are returning to college either to get the degree that they didn't get when they were younger because they got married or they are getting a degree in a new field to start a new career.

Why is this bad?

Unless you are desperate for the last ounce of time together (which will correct itself in a few years anyeay), or are afraid of a woman with (some) education, I see no downside at all.
 
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neardc wrote :
I've cleaned up this thread a bit; please try to stay on topic. Thanks.

Lori - I'm afraid I have nothing to give you! I don't even know any single straight men over 50, and I'm not sure where to find them if they actually exist...lol. I'll be interested to see if any good tips emerge here, though!
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Since you are looking for tips that lead to success I have nothing to offer.

Given my dating sophistication I would say that I would be best suited to dating someone in high school

I really don't think that dating activities are particularly age dependent. When you were in high school you may take your date out to eat and then to your school's football game. When you are 35 you may take your date to dinner and a high school football game because one of you have a child playing in that game. When you are 55 you may take your date to dinner and a high school football game because one of you may have a grand child playing in that game. The place for dinner may be more sophisticated and expensive when you are 55 than when you were 16 but the concept is still the same, and that is to have fun.
 
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Why is this bad?

Unless you are desperate for the last ounce of time together (which will correct itself in a few years anyway), or are afraid of a woman with (some) education, I see no downside at all.
Given that we are a few years apart in age and therefore the point in life I shall explain.

I retired the first time when I was 49. I returned to work a short time later to help a long time friend (who is considerably younger) get his company running. I am still there because I am having a great time doing what I love to do. However, given my position in the company I have great latitude to work when I want and take off when I want. One of the things that I would like to do is travel more, be it a day trip, long weekend to the beach or a week or two farther away. As my ultimate goal is a LTR hopefully leading to marriage I would like to have a match / date / mate who has a similar flexible work schedule to mine. If someone is just embarking on a college education at 55 with the goal of starting a new career when she is has completed her degree then she is not going to be thinking about retiring or even slowing down in her work schedule anytime soon.

While I expect that my match / date / mate will have some different interests than I have plus some shared interests. There is little reason to date someone if you are not spending time with them in person. You yourself frequently say that you can't know someone until you meet them in person.
 
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I accept your desires, but not to discard a woman in school at that age.

I knew more than a few older people when I was a student, and many of them were in school because they enjoyed it.

I see this as having to be checked on a case-by-case basis.
 
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I accept your desires, but not to discard a woman in school at that age.

I knew more than a few older people when I was a student, and many of them were in school because they enjoyed it.

I see this as having to be checked on a case-by-case basis.
Put your beer down and read my post. These girls are looking to get a degree in order to pursue a new career.
 
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I was married for 18 years, but before and after dated plenty. I've met some wonderful men, but I came to EH hoping to find someone who just might truly understand and/or share my passion for what I do. Within a week of joining I did get matched with someone who seems like a great possibility. We're taking our time with it, but so far so good. We're both open about what we're looking for and willing to patiently see where this goes. We have fun together.

I don't really have any tips except don't play by those dang rules. I truly like men and understand if someone treats me badly, it has nothing to do with me. If I mess up, I apologize and move on with life.
 
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jussmile wrote :
I'm not 50+, but I get contacted by a lot (A LOT) of guys in their late 50's even a couple in their early 60's!!... is that the new norm? Is there pressure from older men/women to feel as though they have to or should want to date younger people? Is that a way of holding on or making you feel younger too?

You know this is a good question. I look way younger than I am and have had younger women (as in MUCH younger) show interest in me and it makes me somewhat uncomfortable (although the attention is nice). One of my female friends who is in her 30's tried to line me up with a 37 year old on a date. I know of a woman who is 33 that married a 50 year old guy. My stepdad's sister is 62 and married to a 33 year old. I know of a lot of older/younger relationships these days.

I think it is this. Many people are not as hung up on age these days as they used to be. If you meet someone who you really connect with and the maturity levels match well, then go for it. Yeah you might not have as many years together, but nothing in life is for sure (even if you married someone your age).
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Put your beer down and read my post. These girls are looking to get a degree in order to pursue a new career.
Those 55-year old "girls" may be going back to school to broaden their minds and not fritter their time away watching daytime TV, housework and shopping. Be glad that they want earn a decent income and not have to rely on a small pension or subsistence salary.

And their new career may only be part-time so they can volunteer, exercise, care for their elderly parents, see their kids, hang out with friends, travel, and yes, even date!

So they might not be available when you're free. Is that what bothers you?
 
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lacedwithhope wrote :
I have no valuable dating tips, just crazy stories.

If I did have a tip it would be to take good care of yourself and be patient. The man of your dreams may be just around the corner, or he may be moving toward you on a very slow train. Hopefully not in a tunnel.

The best things about dating now that I'm (only slightly!) older are: I'm told I come across as very real, I worry less about everything that I say on a date and its possible outcome, and don't replay back his words either. That's a good thing. I think.
Patience is definitely a good thing after 50! Keep yourself busy in your own life instead of sitting around waiting for "the right one" to come along because it could take a while. I believe in taking things slowly in a relationship. Getting to know each other is important.

Also the thing I find wonderful about being over 50 and dating is that the older I get the more comfortable I am with myself and who I am. I don't worry if I have a few gray hairs or that gravity is slowly starting to do its thing. I try to take really good care of myself but I no longer have any body image issues. I also love men who can be themselves, flaws and all. Got to have a good sense of humor about all of it!
 
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