Does Illogical Logic Serve Any Purpose? (or, why we should ditch "The Rules")

Yeah I am like Dr. Phil, except I am an accountant and I have more hair and a better body, oh yeah, my IQ is higher I digress.....

Lets get in touch with our feelings reality.

Oh carp! she is going after the rules again. *hush*

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I could go on but the point is simple, you cannot create rules or guidlines to create a relationship where one should never have existed. You may go out longer before breaking up but in the end you will break up. Difference is a mess of wasted time.

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I could go on but the point is simple, you cannot create rules or guidlines to create a relationship where one should never have existed. You may go out longer before breaking up but in the end you will break up. Difference is a mess of wasted time.

If I understand this correctly you are pretty much saying that there is no such thing as a relationship and that you should just hop in the sack on the first date and move along Or maybe just give up on any kind of dating and become a hermit.

If I understand this correctly you are pretty much saying that there is no such thing as a relationship and that you should just hop in the sack on the first date and move along Or maybe just give up on any kind of dating and become a hermit.

Seems rather fatalistic to me...either two people are meant to be together or they're not, and there's nothing you can do to either screw it up or make it work. I don't think I buy that statement.

Yeah I am like Dr. Phil, except I am an accountant and I have more hair and a better body, oh yeah, my IQ is higher I digress.....

Lets get in touch with our feelings reality.

Oh carp! she is going after the rules again. *hush*

There is a logic test, stop me if you have already seen this. If it rains the street will be wet. If the street is wet it has rained. The former is logical because rain will always wet the street. The latter is not because many things can wet a street. Hose? Pick up truck with water in the back. Snow anyone?

You must always date at a slow pace. If a relationship progresses too quickly it ends quickly. Sorry guys not logical. See the more you see someone the quicker you learn about them. It follows that you can also realize quickly you can't stand this person. It has nothing to do with the pace!

You must go on 4 no 6, wait 10? oh whatever, dates before having sex. Sex in the first few dates ruins the relationship. Nope sorry, not logical. What is logical is that those that wait are more likely to be in a bad relationship when if they had sex quicker would have just ended it. See Cialdini, love that guy. See sunk costs, love that concept.

So all your friends have met him. He is really sweet and opens the door for you. You told mom he may be the one. You hit two months *squee* so you are doing the deed. My god he is awful. oops But we are going to see mom this weekend. Was he really that bad? Maybe it was me? I am sure he was just having an off day. Yeah he tried to stick it in my ear, whats that all about? Umm but Judy thinks he is hot. See if you had just done the deed right away you would have dumped his sorry arse. Now you have a vested interest (Cialdini) or sunk cost (business/accounting).

Guys, same scenerio but insert dead fish woman....oh and Bob thinks she is hot.

I could go on but the point is simple, you cannot create rules or guidlines to create a relationship where one should never have existed. You may go out longer before breaking up but in the end you will break up. Difference is a mess of wasted time.