Non-practicing Catholic and a Christian Can it Work?


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justme27 is offline justme27 Post #1  January 13,2010, 7:25pm
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I'm writing this after having just chatted with a girl I met over the weekend. I don't know if she was messing with me, she seemed pretty serious so I assume she was no, but she dumped on me all this Christian stuff out of nowhere.

Now I'm Catholic, but I'm a moderate Catholic and I rarely go to church. Nonetheless, my allegiance is to the Catholic Church. I have friends of all religions--Sikh, Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Christian. Hell I'm about to go to a Buddhist wedding for one of my friends in a few months--first time. Regardless of our faith, we can relate to each other in that we are all open minded about each of our beliefs.

This girl it turns out is hardcore Christian--like God created the world in Seven days darn it forget Darwin. She is attractive as all hell though. I can probably fake giving a darn about her faith, but I could never convert to her faith. I just have too much of an IQ for that.

As I write this I probably answered my own question and this is probably just a disappointed rant. However, have you ever found yourself in this situation?
 
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First thing is that Catholics are Christians.

As to your question, yes I have been matched to bible thumping religious fanatics. Quite often, and since I recently re-took the Questionnaire that is all I have been matched to. I just close them out.
 
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Well, in the spirit of the discussion, listen to your higher IQ. lol.

I don't think it's impossible, would really depend on the two people involved I think.
 
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If she is a fundamentalist and you're not then it's just a recipe for argument down the line, there are few subjects as contentious as religion.
 
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OMG I'm blown away. In my opinion just because someone talks about their belief in God and faith in the truth of the Bible does not make them a religous fanatic. Faith is believing those things that can't be scientifically proven. I too am a non-practicing Catholic and I didn't actually come to know Christ the way I do now until I started to study the Word for myself. Thats one of the pittfalls of Catholism. The religion established certain organizational structures and cultures that lent itself to not educating followers fully based on some belief that the congregation couldn't comprehend the truths without being spoon feed by Priest, Nuns, Bishops, Cardinals, the Pope, etc...

After reading this post, I'm starting to think that maybe they were on to something in the beginning because justme27 doesn't seem to have a clue.

You should thank God for bringing this beautiful, spirit filled woman into your life. Just my humble opinion.
 
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You have to keep in the back of your mind whether or not her religion will get in the way down the road.

I started to get to know an attractive woman that has a strong faith. It really did not get far enough to determine whether or not that would have been an issue. She was also in academia, on the liberal side of moderate, & very, very smart so I think that she was balanced enough in her beliefs for us to be a decent match in that regard.

I would see where it goes.
 
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If she is evangelical Christian then this is not going to work out for you guys. It could for you but not for her.

Equally yoked and all that jazz is very important to a lot of evangelical Christians.

But I think you already knew that.
 
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eh, i think likely not. your friends' religions, the list you mention, there's a certain alignment there with catholicism and most of them. for instance, buddhism and catholicism definitely have strong parallels, like a monastic system.

it's not at all the same with *c*hristianity. that's a wing-it system, if winging-it can be called a system. the devotion and connection to history, science, etc. is not there. sure, the church ran afoul of galileo, but at the same time it provided the model of the modern university, etc. the church has maintained libraries for ages; *c*hristianity is cut off - even willfully cut off - from direct access to that body of knowledge. even if *c*hristians now are endeavouring to create universities and disciplines, even if the vatican grants access to the archives, well... the background, the education, is not there...

they're really manned by and produce a different sort of person with different responses and approaches to the world around us.
 
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Being a bible thumper, I regularly find myself in this situation. Although I do have friends in all walks of life and from all faiths (or none at all).

I have a Muslim friend where we would (jokingly-but-not) tell each other that the other was going to hell. The people that get all flipped out with the fact that I don't agree with them and I am not going to be all PC about it are the ones that are going to have the problem with me. Its not like I get in peoples face about it, or that mere mention of an opposing view will get me all riled up or bent out of shape. Its just when people get all arrogant or a hole-y about it that I have a problem. Christians included.

Oh, and if someone *fakes* it? Its so easy to see right through that. They throw out any bible verse that they happen to know and wind up sounding like an idjit.
 
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Having friends of a certain faith can be completely different than having a relationship with someone of a different faith. In a ltr or future marriage - faith can take a huge role in decisions, daily life, raising children, etc.
Can it work? Yes it can depending on the two people involved, how accepting they are of each other faiths or non-faiths. If she feels strongly about her faith, you can ask her if she was in a relationship long term would she want her partner to be of the same faith and to what degree would she want him to be practicing. If this doesn't match up then it's not going to work obviously and can be a huge bone of contention in a relationship.

I think in writing out what you wrote that you did answer your own question.
 
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