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thisguy86 is offline thisguy86 Post #1  January 12,2010, 4:53pm
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Girls, what should a guy say to show confidence? Tell u that you're the most beautiful girl he's ever seen?
 
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A guy who has confidence doesn't ask women what they think he should say!

Sometimes it's not what a confident guy says.Confidence is also body language.
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A lot of it just has to do with being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that you act out; it's just something that you "are."

(Telling a woman that she's the most beautiful woman he's ever seen is more likely to come across as fawning than confidence... )
 
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Girls, what should a guy say to show confidence? Tell u that you're the most beautiful girl he's ever seen?

Nothing, it doesn't work that way.

First, work hard. Get a good job - get the education necessary to get a good job.

Second ... there is no second - a good job is all you'll need.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Nothing, it doesn't work that way.

First, work hard. Get a good job - get the education necessary to get a good job.

Second ... there is no second - a good job is all you'll need.
Not true! A good job and a bad attitude won't get you far.
 
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Not true! A good job and a bad attitude won't get you far.
Gets Donald Trump pretty far.
 
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A good job is sufficient to attract women.

Not every woman, but that is not the goal.
 
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A "good job" (whatever that means) and confidence are not the same thing at all. And, confidence in the workplace and confidence in relationships are also not necessarily the same thing.
 
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If you dispute my advice to focus his effort on his education and employment, please state why?

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Success inherently boosts confidence - because it gives a person a history of mastery.

Employment is the prime attribute women look for in men.

That will provide the dating opportunity that leads to an ability to select partners without the desperation effect.
 
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Focusing on education and employment is nearly always a good idea.

I'm just saying that you are confusing that with confidence. Confidence is not reserved for the educated or the conventionally successful (nor does education or "good" employment assure confidence...). It can be "a" pathway toward confidence, but it is certainly not the only one.
 
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