Things that bruise a man's ego -- this list seems a bit odd....


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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #61  January 13,2010, 10:38pm
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nightling wrote :
OK so if I offer to pay I'm treating him like he's poor. If I don't offer to pay and mean it sincerely, I'm a gold digger.

*throws up hands*
it's a whole system. you offer to pay initially, he declines initially. then you start contributing for things for yourself, but rarely to the point of never do you pay his way. except for gifts, which are to be of lesser value than the gifts he gives you.
 
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Actually sex is kinda funny......
 
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Avalon1k wrote :
Actually sex is kinda funny......
Yes, as long as you remember they're laughing "with" you, and not "at" you...
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Then for first date I always pay

But if you keep insisting...then I'd say "Hey...really, no big deal....I'd let you take care of the movies/sushi/burger, etc next time (assuming we've talked about those things during our first date)" or you could say "Hey ok..at least may I treat you to after-dinner dessert/coffee?"

All in clear communication..which I know you do
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #65  January 14,2010, 10:15am

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You're a prince. You're a gentleman and a scholar. You're grace and wit are only exceeded by your intelligence and charm.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #66  January 15,2010, 10:41am
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1. Point out the gut.

Depends on the context and how she goes about it. I am a big guy and often women I date will comment that I am like a big bear and they enjoy cuddling with me. This is different though than her saying "wow, look at that beer belly" or something which I would find rather tactless.

2. Insult his job.

This sums it up... I have never dated any woman though who insulted my work. If anything, working for a non-profit seems to actually get me points.

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[Setting: Jerry's car]

JERRY: ..So, you want to come up for a few minutes?

MARLENE: ..I'm sorry, Jerry. I just don't think this is going to work.

JERRY: Really? I thought..

MARLENE: I know, I'm sorry.

JERRY: I guess I just didn't expect it from the way you've been acting.

MARLENE: You sure you want to talk about this? 'Cause I sure don't.

JERRY: Of course I want to talk about it.

MARLENE: Well, okay. I guess things changed for me on Tuesday night.

JERRY: Tuesday night? What happened Tuesday night?

MARLENE: ..I saw your act.

JERRY: My act? What does that have to do with anything?

MARLENE: Well, to be honest, it just didn't make it for me. It's just so much fluff.

JERRY: I can't believe this. So what are you saying? You didn't like my act, so that's it?

MARLENE: I can't be with someone if I don't respect what they do.

JERRY: You're a cashier!

MARLENE: Look, Jerry, it's just not my kind of humor.

JERRY: You can't go by the audience that night. It was late. They were terrible.

MARLENE: I heard the material.

JERRY: I have other stuff. You should come see me on the weekend.

(Scene ends)

[Setting: Night club]

JERRY: Women need to like the job of the guy they're with. If they don't like the job, they don't like the guy. Men know this. Which is why we make up the phony

bogus names for the jobs that we have. "Well, right now, I'm the regional management supervisor." "I'm in development, research, consulting." Men on the other

hand, if they are physically attracted to a woman are not that concerned with her job. Are we? Men don't really care. Men'll just go, "Really? Slaughterhouse? Is that

were you work? That sounds interesting. So whatdya got a big cleaver there? You're just lopping their heads off? That sounds great! Listen, why don't you shower

up, and we'll get some burgers and catch a movie."

3. Compare him to an athlete.

I don't care, I am not an athlete and I have never dated any women that were into sports.

4. Compare him to a musician.

Umm... I don't know if I got compared to Eminem that would be a pretty big blow to my ego.

5. Compare him to his father.

Everyone compares me to my father, I look a lot like him, and I act a lot like him. I have the greatest respect for my dad and being compared to him I consider to be the highest compliment.


6. Buy him big clothes.

Well actually I would be happy here as I am a big guy and need big clothes.

7. Compliment someone he hates.

I hate MAYBE (hate is a really strong word) two people in this world and my current girlfriend hasn't met either of them and I would hope she never does. If she did and understood the reasons why I felt hatred towards them and still found something positive it wouldn't bruise my ego but it might bother me considering the reason I feel that I hate these two people.

8. Treat him like he's poor.

I work for a non-profit, I am paying back student loans, and have bought far too many toys in the past. I am "poor" and she knows this. She is also a student and not rolling in the money either. Money doesn't make our relationship.

9. Laugh during sex.

“My girlfriend always laughs during sex - no matter what she's reading.” ~ Steve Jobs


Sex should be fun, and laughing isn't a bad thing. I think the guy who wrote the article is a bit insecure or is implying that all guys are.
 
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Laugh during sex

Treat him like he's poor

Insult his job

Compare him to his father
 
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