TravelBarbie is offline TravelBarbie Post #1  January 12,2010, 8:15am
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I have posted here many times now, asking for advice and insights and always greatly appreciate it. But as I read the many threads by people asking how to know what's "really going on" with this person or that siutation - I am starting to realize something very interesting....I think on some level, we all already know what is going. I think our intuition tells us a lot more than we give ourselves credit for. Sometimes our intuition tells us something we don't want to know, so we second guess it and search for hopeful validation telling us otherwise....but deep inside, we know.

I was about to post something here a few days ago about a guy I have been dating for 2 months, with whom I was starting to question if he was interested enough. There were tons of little indicators, and I was second guessing everything....but deep inside I knew. I knew he wasn't really feeling it...and despite me REALLY wanting to, I wasn't feeling it either. And yet I stressed and fretted and worried and discussed and analyzed with many people for weeks.....and all the while my intuition kept telling me exactly what was really going on....I just chose to ignore it.

And last night when we (very amicably) broke up - I realized my intuition was right all along. So whats my point? My point is - TRUST YOUR INTUITION!! I say this to myself, and to all of us out there struggling to analzye "what really going on" on various dates and in various relationships. I think we all could use a good dose of honest "self trust." So this is my blanket statement to all those in swirling conflicted situations...TRUST YOUR INTUITION. Scrape away the layers of fear and insecurity and ask yourself honestly what you really feel about things....I bet you already know the answers to many of your questions...trust yourself...and then act on it. Maybe you agree or disagree - this is just my new insight into dating....

But thats all I have to say about that!
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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #2  January 12,2010, 8:29am
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yes, I trust my intuition, and typically go off of that... okay, no I don't. I typically go off of what I want my intuition to be, but that's another story!!But, my problem, and why I post has more to do with trying to understand men. My intuition, and how I feel about a situation, is and can be translated completely differently when it comes to the male psyche... things are just different, thought patters different, the ways you express yourself... different. So, although I know my intuition, when it's on the positive, I like to get advice to make sure I'm not jumping the gun (which I do quite often!).
 
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Yep, intuition is always right as to whether you like someone or just WISH you liked him/her.

I think intuition is really important in interpreting the other person's level of interest, but it has to be coupled with some knowledge of their communication style and personality.
 
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I'm going to listen to Jewel now.
 
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jussmile wrote :
yes, I trust my intuition, and typically go off of that... okay, no I don't. I typically go off of what I want my intuition to be, but that's another story!!But, my problem, and why I post has more to do with trying to understand men. My intuition, and how I feel about a situation, is and can be translated completely differently when it comes to the male psyche... things are just different, thought patters different, the ways you express yourself... different. So, although I know my intuition, when it's on the positive, I like to get advice to make sure I'm not jumping the gun (which I do quite often!).
And I totally do the same thing ....I think its good to get rational advice when we are second guessing.....I have just come to the realization that I know more than I give myself credit...and I think lots of people do that
 
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Georgetheman wrote :
Yep, intuition is always right as to whether you like someone or just WISH you liked him/her.

I think intuition is really important in interpreting the other person's level of interest, but it has to be coupled with some knowledge of their communication style and personality.
Very true! You kinda have to understand people (and yourself) a decently in order to know the difference between intuition & desire.
 
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One's gut feeling is right most of the time.
 
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SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #8  January 12,2010, 12:29pm
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PY_2 wrote :
I'm going to listen to Jewel now.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lt5Wg25NAt8Here ya go. Enjoy your inner... intution.
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richey is offline richey Post #9  January 14,2010, 3:00pm
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I agree for the most part. But I would advise always to follow up intuition with communication!!!

My intuition has told me a few times with my gf that she "wasn't interested" ~ including before our first date. Turns out she was REALLY into me but didnt' want to let on. Since then my "intuition" also told me that maybe she didnt' want me around anymore, but the opposite was true after we spoke about it.

So yes.. trust your intuition most of the time, but COMMUNICATE about it ~ because sometimes our intuition is influenced by our past histories or baggage.

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