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eaglesfanone is offline eaglesfanone Post #1  January 11,2010, 11:04am
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whenever i really get interested in someone, i always have the feeling like i have to remind them of me so i dont lose them. i try to do this by keeping in contact periodically by text, facebook, and phone calls. now, this sounds almost like a good plan, but whenever i talk to them, my nerves really get in the way and i become a bumbling idiot, asking redundant questions, saying things i dont think ahead about, or i just dont have anything to say making myself come off as boring and uninteresting. is there anything i can do to help this??? i have already dug myself a little hole with this kind of thing over the past few days....so if anyone knows how i can resurrect myself, that would be awesome!
 
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eaglesfanone wrote :
whenever i really get interested in someone, i always have the feeling like i have to remind them of me so i dont lose them.
You might want to figure out why you feel that way.
Is that a rational fear? That is, if you don't contact the object of your interest, they won't contact you? If that's the case, you are probably barking up the wrong tree(s,) and chasing people who aren't quite as interested in you as you are in them.
Is this fear irrational? Are you just acting over-eager, desperate, and/or slightly co-dependent? If that's the case, you'll have to consciously "tone it down." It's not a good look and can be quite a turn off for most people. Which will then result in them losing interest, and take you back to the first point (rational fear.)
 
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Just be yourself. And do your budding relationship a favor: get OUT of the texting stage as soon as possible. You need to "graduate" to phone calls, and keep it there. You'll never get to know someone by text messaging.
 
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eaglesfanone wrote :
whenever i talk to them, my nerves really get in the way and i become a bumbling idiot, asking redundant questions, saying things i dont think ahead about, or i just dont have anything to say making myself come off as boring and uninteresting. is there anything i can do to help this???

Yes.

Don't talk on the phone unless you have something intelligent to say.

If this is before the first meeting, what's taking you so long?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Yes.

Don't talk on the phone unless you have something intelligent to say.

If this is before the first meeting, what's taking you so long?
this is definitely not before the first meeting. we have met up twice and gone on an offical date already. its a slight budding distance relationship, so talking on the phone and texting is the way to go right now (until i go to meet her next week). im just trying to get better at it. i think the main thing is to just be myself, because thats what got her attracted to me in the first place. good way of thinking?
 
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eaglesfanone wrote :
whenever i really get interested in someone, i always have the feeling like i have to remind them of me so i dont lose them. i try to do this by keeping in contact periodically by text, facebook, and phone calls. now, this sounds almost like a good plan, but whenever i talk to them, my nerves really get in the way and i become a bumbling idiot, asking redundant questions, saying things i dont think ahead about, or i just dont have anything to say making myself come off as boring and uninteresting. is there anything i can do to help this??? i have already dug myself a little hole with this kind of thing over the past few days....so if anyone knows how i can resurrect myself, that would be awesome!

Newsflash,


Your computer is equipped with a SHIFT key. This key makes capital letters, like, you know, *I*, and the first letter of the first word in every new sentence.

Your computer also has an ENTER key. It can be used to start a new paragraph;

What is it -- about the concept of a new paragraph --- that so eludes you


And, now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

And please don't text. that has been discussed here before, and in dating, as that is considered retarded and utterly inappropriate by many adults.
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