rugfather is offline rugfather Post #1  January 10,2010, 1:59pm
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We met last night at a nice place to grab a drink or two. Got there around 8:30, we were talking until like 12:00. I think I made a good impression. Actually, when I first saw her, it seemed like we clicked. When we were sitting in the lounge, it seemed like there was interest from her. She mirrored many of my jesters. As in, when I was leaning in, she was leaning in, etc. So I asked if she would be interested in doing something next week, she said sure. Though, I may have made one mistake. At the end, I did not want to be too forward and instead of kissing her, I just hugged her. Though, looking back, I believe her lips were puckered up and expecting a kiss. Since it was a first meet for drinks, and not a date, I thought attempting a kiss would be too aggressive and forward. Was I wrong to assume so?
 
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In my view, you were probably too timid, but you never really know.

The logic I've come to accept is that if she likes you she will probably accept a Kiss - and most of the time will want one.

If she doesn't like you, the whole evening is a write-off anyway.

So, only the first instance matters. Why leave her wondering about your interest? (This all goes double for young, urban people, and especially when dealing with a woman with lots of dates.)
 
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Not sure. I guess to leave some anticipation for the next date; which would be the first date. I said I'll call her next week to setup plans. So, that should indicate my interest.
 
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I wouldn't worry about it.
 
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All fair.

But, what if she's had four first dates this week? (As a number of women report.)

Did you stand out?
 
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Yea, I think so. She seemed really interested in my work and hobbies. As I was to her's. We did speak for like for 4 hours. She was laughing and smiling. She ordered two drinks, so it did not seem like she wanted to leave. At the end, as I was running out of things to say, I asked for the check and we left. At the end of broadway, I jumped into my car and she went into a taxi. I was thinking of offering her a lift, but thought that would be way too forward.

We met pretty fast. She initiated a communication request on Monday and we met for Saturday. I did ask if she was hungry, but she said she ate prior to the meet. I really think we clicked. Where, in other meets, the woman just wanted to leave where it just wasn't a click. She always had direct eye contact with me, and I 98% did with her.

I was a bit infatuated with her (she smelt great). Complemented her on it. She smiled and said thanks. She was talking about a few local restaurants which I never heard of, and without thinking, like 30 minutes in said would you like to go? She said yes. Then I said how about next Saturday? She answered I need to check my calendar, but if I have nothing setup, sure.

Speed down to the end of the meet. Asked, so can I call you this week, she said yes. Said great. We walked out together at the same pace, and hugged goodbye (though, I think out of the quarter of my eye her lips were pouched) and said I call you next week.

Really wanted it to be no pressure. Now, if I call her like on Tuesday and she pickup the phone or call me back, then I guess it was a failure.
 
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I think you're fine, actually I prefer a date who doesn't kiss me on the first date. I barely have gotten to know him. I know not all women are like this, but I am. So if she wants to go out again I think that would be your answer.
Once you've set up a second date, you'll know if she really wants to go out with you again or not. Don't worry about it, and don't over think it. Most of all have fun and relax. Have a good time!
 
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D_Lion wrote :
All fair.

But, what if she's had four first dates this week? (As a number of women report.)

Did you stand out?
I don't know anyone who's been that successful.

OP, no worries, enjoy your next date.
 
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I agree with DL... what makes you stand out above the other 3 guys she may have gone out with that week. I know when I dated a lot, I would always have to check my calendar before making prior arrangements... otherwise, why does she need to check her calendar? If she's not going on a lot of dates, she would know. I'm not dating a lot of people right now, and know exactly what days I have available. Whereas, there was no way to keep track of this without checking before.
 
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Well, not sure. Maybe she did not want to seem to anxious. She does a lot of charity work after her normal business work, so I can assume that. She was coming from a charity event before we met.

Could be that.
 
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