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my5cents is offline my5cents Post #1  January 9,2010, 10:49pm
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To those who have been reading my thread about "lying about having a child", well I just found this particular gentleman on yet another dating site. His profile on one site is very different than the one I met him on.

I'm a little shocked but shouldn't be.
These are the differences on each site:
a) Having a child on one and not on another
b) Have a bachelor's degree and some college on another
c) Even height difference
d) Location -one on the east coast the other on the west coast. I do not think he was here on the west coast this whole time now. I believe he will move here though. Who knows at this point!
e) A certain wage on one site, and another wage on the other site. We're talking more than a 25k difference. Actually almost a 50k difference. From pretty much below poverty to "I'm doing moderately well!"
f) His faith is different on each site
g) Hair color is even labeled different.

No wonder he has stayed silent since I asked him about the discrepancy between his match profile and his own website. There's even a bigger discrepancy from his two profiles on two different dating sites. This absolutely scares me! I'm hoping these kinds of people are in the minority.
 
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He could be married on one site and single on the other!!

I wouldn't stick around to find the truth though.


I just read yesterday that LOTS of married guys sign onto these sites, perhaps married females also.

What a cluster...........
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Are you sure the person is real at all?

In the first two weeks on M, I received emails from six people I believe presented fake profiles. At least four of these I believe were profiles which were intended to be used in scams. I never got far enough in communication for them to ask for money; I recognized where things were going long before that. I blocked them and reported my suspicions to the website.

Do a search on "online dating scam" and on "Nigerian scam." This may help you recognize such situations in the future. Of course it is possible that the individual with whom you corresponded was some other kind of scoundrel.
 
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No worries 6dle, I will not stick around for the truth. His one profile (the one that I just found tonight) matches with his own website. I believe that might be the truth. The other profile which is the one that I saw first has the status of no child, BA degree, and obviously on the west coast.

I hope no other woman is taken in by him. When is it our social responsibility to report a person like him to the dating website? Is it our social responsibility? I don't know if another woman would google him as I did, or look at another dating website. I'm kind of juggling with this one and I guess in the end only I can decide.
 
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you can report him to the dating website. I probably would.
 
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Sorry that happened to you. I say definitely report him!
 
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I often think that someone should do a study on dating site addiction, there do seem to be so many people these days who have profiles absolutely everywhere they possibly can, with varying degrees of factual accuracy.
I remember seeing something on Oprah years ago about deceptive descriptions on dating sites, one guy said he was a tom cruise lookalike, and when he came out the only similarity was the haircut.
I guess there is a certain amount of ego stroking involved, they want to feel validated or at least noticed even if they have no intention of actually meeting anyone and bursting the bubble, like the guy on the street who gets off on the fantasy that every woman he passes is looking at him.
 
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my5cents wrote :

I'm a little shocked but shouldn't be.
These are the differences on each site:
a) Having a child on one and not on another
b) Have a bachelor's degree and some college on another
c) Even height difference
d) Location -one on the east coast the other on the west coast. I do not think he was here on the west coast this whole time now. I believe he will move here though. Who knows at this point!
e) A certain wage on one site, and another wage on the other site. We're talking more than a 25k difference. Actually almost a 50k difference. From pretty much below poverty to "I'm doing moderately well!"
f) His faith is different on each site
g) Hair color is even labeled different.

I dont justify what he did......but in general it is possible and rational for a situation like the above.


In Ehamony some have multiple profiles from diferent times they were members. He could have had a profile in site 1 from 5 years ago when he lived in the east coast making les money having different hair color, religious views going to college and not having a child


At site 2 5 years later he could have moved to the west coast making more money with new hair color, had a baby, and completed a college degree.
 
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Now you know, you should stop wasting your time on him.
 
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