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dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #1  January 9,2010, 8:55pm
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When a guy brings that up on your first date, that's his way of saying that he's not interested correct?

That's been my interpretation.
 
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Not in my case, sometimes he just wants to see what your experience has been online dating. I don't go into too much depth on this one during a date, I think it's like bringing up all the past. I usually say it's just another way of meeting people.

Many of my dates who have brought the subject up have asked me out on second dates. So do not fear, if they bring it up that doesn't mean they aren't interested.
 
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Methinks people try to generalize far too much. What specifically was said? Even the same words said by two different people might have different motivations. Words don't always reflect adequately what may be in someone's head. But try not to assume there is some negative meaning behind the things someone says or asks. Doing so is just crazy-making.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
When a guy brings that up on your first date, that's his way of saying that he's not interested correct?

That's been my interpretation.
Not at all! Since you met online, it's an experience you both have in common and is a natural topic to bring up.

Why on earth would you interpret that as him not being interested?!?!?
 
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Actually, I did bring it up on one of my dates. I also brought it up on a date with my (now gf) when we first dated. i think natural curiosity occurs when you get matched up on an online dating service.

So I don't see the problem.

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No, sometimes he just wants to swap war stories, he may be trying to get a handle on how well or badly you've dealt with it and what he can expect.
 
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No, sometimes he just wants to swap war stories, he may be trying to get a handle on how well or badly you've dealt with it and what he can expect.
That's pretty well my reason for doing it, also sometimes you have to look for conversational topics, and at that point all you really know that you have in common (for sure) is that you are both on a dating site. Sometimes how they talk about their experiences (or lack of) can tell you quite a bit about a person.

Mind you, I am firmly in the camp of "it's not real until you meet" so I may have a different take on this than most.

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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Not at all! Since you met online, it's an experience you both have in common and is a natural topic to bring up.

Why on earth would you interpret that as him not being interested?!?!?
+1 there Wonderwoman.

Its like bumping into someone at a book store in the sci-fi isle. Chances are you're both going to talk about sci-fi books rather then immediately starting a conversation about organic fruits.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Not at all! Since you met online, it's an experience you both have in common and is a natural topic to bring up.

Why on earth would you interpret that as him not being interested?!?!?
Well said +1.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
When a guy brings that up on your first date, that's his way of saying that he's not interested correct?

Not correct.

Online dating is one thing you know you have in common.

And he is likely interested in another data point regarding the differences in how men and women use online dating.

It is of course preferable that you can find in each other something more stimulating to talk about, but did you read a national or global newspaper today so you could?
 
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