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joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #1  January 8,2010, 8:37pm
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I was e-mailing back and forth this match since mid December. Since we both went away for Christmas, there was silence during those two weeks or so. She viewed my profile this week, so I thought she was back. E-mailed her do you want to meet up. She replied back a few hours later and said yes, we should. She, placed her phone number in the e-mail. I called the next day around lunch and got her VM. Left a VM, but never heard back. Now I am completely lost on this one. Hate to give up on it since we are both in Stamford and we seem to have the most in common when compared to the other matches.

Think she's gaming?
 
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It's possible that she was using another computer and isn't back yet.

It's possible that while she is back in town, she's busy after having been gone for the holidays

It's possible that modern technology malfunctioned.

Why jump to the conclusion that she's gaming? If you are suspicious of her before you meet her, what chance does she actually have with you?
 
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You called at lunch on a weekday? Perhaps she was at work and too busy to answer her cell phone (or it was her home phone)? There's no way for you to be certain that she heard the voicemail.

I would suggest calling one more time on the weekend, when she's not likely to be working (unless you know otherwise) in case something went wrong with the voicemail. I don't trust technology.
 
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I would just wait to see if she calls you back. Don't call her again.
 
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Nah, I am not going to call or e-mail again. Let's just say she was busy. Hey, that's cool. Understand completely. This call was on Wednesday. Its now Saturday. Strange. That is why I think she's gaming. Maybe just on here for an ego boost. I have had a lot of different outcomes, this is the first where A) no call or text back. B) No e-mail. or C) Closed out.
 
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Nah, I am not going to call or e-mail again. Let's just say she was busy. Hey, that's cool. Understand completely. This call was on Wednesday. Its now Saturday. Strange. That is why I think she's gaming. Maybe just on here for an ego boost. I have had a lot of different outcomes, this is the first where A) no call or text back. B) No e-mail. or C) Closed out.
Um, joeyjoe, it's still Friday. Perhaps the clock has ticked over past midnight where you are, but it's a little early to consider that it's the weekend and she hasn't called back. Let the sun rise on Saturday morning first at least! You do tend to exaggerate things to the negative a wee bit.

That's not to say that I think she'll call you back, and clearly you don't think she's worth the effort of a second call, so... NEXT!
 
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Joeyjoe, on this one I think your analysis is correct. I think we (humans) make too many excuses for each other. If she was interested she'd call. She may call later, but at that point I would say unfortunately you aren't very high on her list of priorities.
I've played telephone tag with people, but I call them either the day they call or the next day. It's the polite thing to do. I'm sorry life does get in the way sometimes, but truly if you make dating somewhat of a priority then calls are returned, e-mails sent back, etc.

I hope the next gal is someone who puts you more as a priority.
 
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MelinCali wrote :
Um, joeyjoe, it's still Friday. Perhaps the clock has ticked over past midnight where you are, but it's a little early to consider that it's the weekend and she hasn't called back. Let the sun rise on Saturday morning first at least! You do tend to exaggerate things to the negative a wee bit.

That's not to say that I think she'll call you back, and clearly you don't think she's worth the effort of a second call, so... NEXT!
Nah, that isn't it. Just a realist. What am I going to do, run over to her again to reach VM and leave another message? Or she picks up and says, oh, hi. It rang for like five rings, so I do not think she clicked ignore. But who knows. Guess I am down from 9 to 7 potentials.

See how they weed themselves out so fast? I'm no gift from the heavens, but I do know common courtesy. Something the majority of our generation is missing; at least here in Connecticut. Not sure anywhere else.
 
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It might not be the worst idea to call her again at a time when she may be available.

She may not have been thrilled that you called at lunchtime. It sort of puts the ball in her court & maybe she is wondering if you put it in her court on purpose. Calling when she likely will not be able to answer has the most likely outcome of putting it in her court to make the more difficult step.

Just sayin...that she may feel that a first move has not really been made & isn't comfortable doing it.
 
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my5cents wrote :
Joeyjoe, on this one I think your analysis is correct. I think we (humans) make too many excuses for each other. If she was interested she'd call. She may call later, but at that point I would say unfortunately you aren't very high on her list of priorities.
I've played telephone tag with people, but I call them either the day they call or the next day. It's the polite thing to do. I'm sorry life does get in the way sometimes, but truly if you make dating somewhat of a priority then calls are returned, e-mails sent back, etc.

I hope the next gal is someone who puts you more as a priority.
Yea, but the strange thing is, when I sent the e-mail to her asking if she wants to meet for a drink now, she replied back in a few hours. She's always replied back within a day, and likewise for me. Giving it a week. No reply by next Friday, closing her out. One would think, at 36, a person wouldn't play these games. What is really the point.
 
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