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LOL.. agreed.. That made a lot more sense to me and I think I can handle/accept that (as much as a man can ~ since we're completely different beasts from women).

Actually it kinda follows what my gf told me. She said she always "knew" she was very attracted to me based on things like that. For her it was something about the sound of my voice. I think she also said it was something about the way I smelled and kissed too ~ but she specifically and primarily pointed out the sound of my voice.

Of course my "manly response" was, "r u serious?" lol. So you're explanation actually makes sense to me and explains a lot. Thank you for taking time to publish your 2-page analysis ~ it was greatly appreciated

Richey

P.S. And no.. obviously it doesn't fit how i "wish" women would work hahahahaah
It doesn't really fit the way I wish it worked either, Richey, fwiw. I think it's kind of like the guy's with the visual thing. It just is what it is, and it's like anything else you want to do in life. You have to understand what is and then make the most of what you do have to accomplish your goal.

The way chemistry works for me is one reason why I think all those dating rules about when to call and being a little bit of a jerk etc are really just a bunch of nonsense. Women go out with guys when they feel that gut level attraction to them and then try to sort out whether the guy is long-term material.

Sometimes the guy's a jerk and she still sticks with them bc she's really deep down attracted due to the chemistry, but that's in spite of their behavior, not because of it. If the guy doesn't wise up soon, an emotionally healthy woman will be off to find someone with the right chemistry who is also a pretty decent person, and she'll be ultra conscious of all the jerk games people try to play and cut the next guy less slack.

I'll refrain from the perjorative "nice" even though the guys I liked the best in my mind have always been nice and sweet, and I didn't see that as "unmanly" at all.
 
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