How attractive am I and what could I reasonably expect in return?


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  January 8,2010, 9:14am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Last night I couldn't get on the boards, they were closed for some technical reason. Thinking time! Oh yeah.

So I've been thinking that we've all got a lot to say about physical attraction and what I notice is that we don't mind people saying they'd want to date the attractive. Of course, common sense, who wouldn't?

No, what seems to inflame us, is if someone who isn't all that wants to date a movie star. "How dare they?" We rave, how dare they be so picky that they would turn down people who, in truth, are good enough for them. It's the inequality of it all that enrages us.

To this end we're quite keen on the numbering system. For example, people who are a "5" should only hope to date a "5" or maybe a "6" but get over themselves before they entertain hopes of a 7/8/9 and god forbid, a 10. Although how we assess our, and others, 'number' is entirely abitrary and objective.

I got to thinking about a tv series in the UK called "Your Face or Mine", it was a brutally frank game show. Couples appeared and the audience had preshow voted on whether the gf (then bf) were better or worse looking than a series of random pictures. The couple could win a holiday by guessing accuratley if the audience thought their partner was more or less attractive than the random pictures. Cruel, hillarious, fascinating viewing.

So..............................

What if online dating sites allowed a similar system to the star post rating. You could rate someone's physical attraction and the system would work out an average. The more people who rated your physical attractiveness, the more reliable your average attractiveness 'number'. This would allow people to not only know their own level but also their entitlement to attractiveness in others. For example 3s could no longer kid themselves that they were really an 8 and could be more realistic about who they could reasonably hope to attract.

Certainly technically possible but would any of us really want this I wonder...........................
 
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I believe that's what they are doing over on beautifulpeople.com at this very moment...
 
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There was a show...I think on discovery...called "science of sex appeal". They looked at studies of attractivness and found that most people seem to go with someone similar to them just on looks alone.
 
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I believe that's what they are doing over on beautifulpeople.com at this very moment...
Yep!
 
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ...

And there is the attractiveness a person has before knowing and after knowing ... Call it BK and AK.

BK I think the physical attraction is nothing but a trap. The person has an inner monster inside that hasn't yet shown its face. I have to see that before I know if they are really attractive or maybe, just a monster.

AK ... if they are still attractive at that point, then maybe it seems like the attraction is something real and worthwhile.

It would take a pretty complicated rating system to work for me.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #6  January 8,2010, 9:41am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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neardc wrote :
I believe that's what they are doing over on beautifulpeople.com at this very moment...

Well yeah, but I'm not talking about an 'elite' club. The same old site but with frank and democratically decided 'attractiveness' coding.

What could go wrong?
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
. For example, people who are a "5" should only hope to date a "5" or maybe a "6" but get over themselves before they entertain hopes of a 7/8/9 and god forbid, a 10.

I'm "Infinity". No *wonder* I can't find my equal.
 
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So..............................

What if online dating sites allowed a similar system to the star post rating. You could rate someone's physical attraction and the system would work out an average. The more people who rated your physical attractiveness, the more reliable your average attractiveness 'number'. This would allow people to not only know their own level but also their entitlement to attractiveness in others. For example 3s could no longer kid themselves that they were really an 8 and could be more realistic about who they could reasonably hope to attract.

Certainly technically possible but would any of us really want this I wonder...........................

On OKCupid you can rate a person. It is not necessarily an attractiveness rating but on the whole profile. On Plenty of Fish you can rate a persons photos.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #9  January 8,2010, 9:57am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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On OKCupid you can rate a person. It is not necessarily an attractiveness rating but on the whole profile. On Plenty of Fish you can rate a persons photos.
In the name of investigative journalism I'm off to find out how.

Would you welcome it here abouts?
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #10  January 8,2010, 10:03am

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Here is my problem with judging based on physical attractiveness alone. I mean I have met people that are physically very attractive but when you add in their personality they are lucky if they can get someone from Deliverance to date them. I have also seen average physical attractive people with amazing personalities getting who ever they want.So what happens when the beautiful woman who has never smiled a day in her life gets a 10. Won't she be disappointed when only the threes ask her out. Probably sue you.
 
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