GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #1  January 8,2010, 7:18am
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I went out with him last night . He's very nice in person, seems normal. We got along, good conversation and laughs. He paid for the drinks , walked me to the train, hugged me goodbye and gave me a peck on the lips and said he had a good time and wanted to do it again. I thanked him for the drinks and said yes, we should do it again, I had a good time. Anyway, the only thing is, is that as soon as I met him, I felt a 'gay' vibe. I can't really pinpoint it, but it was immediate. I don't have good gaydar, and I really hope that I'm wrong, but its something about his mannerisms that makes me think this. I really hope its not true. When I got home, I had a long text from him telling me again that he had a really good time and that he meant it when he said that he wants to go out on another date. He's really sweet, and I do like him. I will definitely go out with him again. What does everyone think?
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  January 8,2010, 7:23am
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Read up on the thread about SNAGS. I don't know how to post the link so you're on your own.

Or, maybe your gaydar wasn't far off and he's bi.
 
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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #3  January 8,2010, 7:58am
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or, maybe he's just really sweet and you might be looking for something wrong with him? I don't know... sounds like this might be the case?
 
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he's one or more of the following:
a) a Super Christian
b) from the midwest
c) a SNAG (as mentioned by tweet37)
d) a pollyanna
 
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If you like him, give him the benefit of the doubt. He can't be strictly gay or he wouldn't have gone on a date with you.

Some straight guys have a certain "flamboyance" about them that makes strangers or new acquaintances think they are gay. It's up to you to decide whether this bothers you or not. Remember, it's up to him, not us, whether he's gay or not.

Don't buy into these stupid categories of "snag", "from the midwest" and whatnot. I'm from the midwest and I don't come across as gay.
 
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If you got the feeling "gay", I would not just ignore that. There are gay men in the dating pool. Whether it be that they are consciously aware of it and simply looking for a beard or whether they just have not yet admitted it to themselves/friends/family/etc, they will date women. I am not saying rush to judgment, just don't ignore your instincts. They are there for a reason.
 
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What made you think gay?

Was it voice? style?

Have you had a history of attracting gays?
 
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suzyblueeyes wrote :
If you got the feeling "gay", I would not just ignore that. There are gay men in the dating pool. Whether it be that they are consciously aware of it and simply looking for a beard or whether they just have not yet admitted it to themselves/friends/family/etc, they will date women. I am not saying rush to judgment, just don't ignore your instincts. They are there for a reason.
This is absolutely true. I worked with someone once who finally admitted to himself that he was gay (and realized he had been his whole life and just didn't want to be) and this was after two marriages to women, followed by numerous short-term relationships with women (most of whom he'd met through online dating).

I'm not saying the guy you went out with is gay. But the mere fact that he wanted to go out with a woman does not mean he's not gay.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #9  January 8,2010, 9:25am

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Go to his bathroom...and check the magazines.
If you find Glamour or Vanity Fair, then you have lost him to the other team.
 
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I certainly am not an expert on gay or bi (thank goodness) but why would a gay guy be asking you for a date and then giving you a kiss (peck on the lips) goodbye for. If your gaydar is not properly tuned maybe you are detecting SNAG or metro with it.

I forget if this was an eHarmony match or maybe from another dating site. But there are sites for people looking for gay or bi dating partners.
 
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