tyguy is offline tyguy Post #1  January 7,2010, 11:05pm
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imet this girl over a year ago at work. We became good friends when one random night she asked me why i had never asked her out. Well i did that night but we broke up for various reasons a month later. We are now trying to work things out but i saw on her facebook profile that she was in a relationship with another guy. I had just been out on a date with her and when she left my house she gave me a kiss and said she could not wait to see me again. When i saw this later that day i asked her about it and she said that is was because this guy ex girlfriend woulg not leave him alone so he asked her to do this and she said yes. I feel like i am being played and need some advice on how to handle this.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #2  January 8,2010, 11:13am
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I dont think you are being played. Some women will say they are in a relationship just to prevent people from her past coming up and hitting her on facebook.

Sounds like she has an ex who she still is friends with but his current g/f isnt trusting him with her. I do believe exs can be just friends.

Dont read too much into it...just talk to her and listen to her. Its a fair question to ask...she answered you with a descent explanation so trust her and not worry about it.
 
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Sometimes I swear people think that the rest of the population is brainless. The stories they come up with. Don't be played, tyguy.

On FB you don't even have to select a status. Tell her you aren't comfortable with this "status" and if she keeps it, drop her.

One of my friends had a similar experience. The guy made a status comment that he was doing some activity with his "wifey". When my friend called him out on it, he said he put that there to get rid of someone who is stalking him. Yeah...right. She eventually found out the truth. There really is a "wifey".

Either way, it just sounds like drama. Handle this and move on.
 
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Wow, this is... no good. You are way better than this. Enough said.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #5  January 8,2010, 11:51am

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Okay you look young, like my daughter's age young. Well maybe not 19 but you don't seem much older. She has been a relationship with her friends, random guys, I think Santa Claus at one point in time. Ya know girls your age don't always put stock in facebook relationship status.Hey if you want to break up over something this stupid go for it.
 
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I agree with Jo. I don't necessarily get that she's playing you on this. But.... the real key is this. Clicking a setting on FB is not the end all, be all, on knowing if somebody is playing you or not.

HOW IS SHE ACTING? HOW IS SHE TREATING YOU? is she doing anything that makes it seem possible she's playing you? Or does she actually act like she's into you and devoted to you and not dating anybody else?

I'd honestly judge more so by real life actions than some setting on FB. (Oh and yeah.. it is not really that uncommon for people to do things on FB to fend off a stalker ~ silly facebook!)

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Thanks everyone for the advice. A little update on what happened. So I just asked her about it and she avoided it and said she did not want to talk about but i should not worry. So I am just going to trust her and whatever happens, happens. Oh and thanks Jo you are one of the few people who said I look the age that I actually am. Everyone usually guesses I am around 30
 
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Well that's actually not a good sign if she's getting defensive, not answering up to the question, and brushing it off with "just dont' worry about it."

That actually sorta changes my mind a bit that maybe she's pulling one on you. STILL... the right answer here was not to base it off a setting an a website, but to see how she acts with you and treats you.

(And as you can see, the way she treated the question wasn't very favorable).

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tyguy wrote :
Thanks everyone for the advice. A little update on what happened. So I just asked her about it and she avoided it and said she did not want to talk about but i should not worry. So I am just going to trust her and whatever happens, happens. Oh and thanks Jo you are one of the few people who said I look the age that I actually am. Everyone usually guesses I am around 30
Your being cautious... you are concerned. Maybe for a good reason... maybe over nothing. Proceed with caution but give her the benefit of the doubt. Explore the possibilities of the relationship but try not to let yourself fall too hard over her.

Some women need a "man in reserve" before they are willing to breakup with their existing boy friend. (This is an unhealthy sign!)
 
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