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Edmondo is offline Edmondo Post #11  January 8,2010, 9:02am
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I don’t see any problems with you. I am an older male and really not into raising someone else’s kids. The jobs I had taken moved me all around the country and I did not have children Also I have developed a free wheeling life style that does not include them. To me, I have or taken vacations at the spur of the moment. Some times I have heard of great deals and well have to grab them.

I have and do go out with women with children. Some of the kids are ok and well some are brats. The last woman I went out with had teenagers and they ran the house. It was almost as I had to ask them if we could go out. If they were in a bad mood we couldn’t go out.

When ever I hear “my kids come first” I head for the hills.
 
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I don't think there's anything wrong in feeling as you do. I'm 43 and all but my youngest are adults. I've realized in the last year or so that I'm looking forward to my youngest being out of the house so that I have more freedom to go and do what I want (I have him 24/7 now). So I wouldn't want to date someone with full custody of children younger than mine as it's too hard to get away for any length of time.

That being said however, I have met a man who has joint custody of 3 minor children, 2 of which are younger than my youngest by 2 and 4 years. To me, the combination of it being joint custody and only 4 years between his youngest and mine is acceptable.

So I guess you have to figure out if you're okay with
1) full custody of older children, about to leave the house
2) joint custody with some visitation
or
3) a man with grown children

or if children at all are out of the question.

Any of which are okay as long as you're clear and your prospective dates are too.
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so, if a woman has kids, and enters into a situation where the man does not have kids... the relationship is expected to come before the kids?
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
good luck in finding a man who doesnt have kids....unless you want to be a cougar.
LOL- plenty of men don't have kids, period. Plenty of people have never been married, either.

I think the first post is perfectly reasonable- if you don't want to deal with kids, don't date someone who has them at home.
 
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