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If they come out with statemetns like "i am this" or "i am not this".... quite often the opposite ends up being true.

but rather if they don't make such claims, it usually means they are able to show ou what they are or aren't through their actions and consistent behavior (and thus not need to make exclamations of what they are or aren't ~ because it's just obvious in how they handle themselves).

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I agree that people who make statements, especially repeatedly, that they are this or that means they aren't.

I believe people until I don't anymore.
 
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I assume that most things people tell me are truths. Truths from their perspective. Truth from my perspective might be quite different. And truths can change as we learn more about ourselves and more about the world. And I lie. We all lie. We lie to each other and we lie to ourselves. Some lies are truths and some truths are lies: depends upon the viewing platform.

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I agree that people who make statements, especially repeatedly, that they are this or that means they aren't.

I make statements.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I make statements.
Should we believe you?
 
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I think true liars are fairly rare. People will generally tell you exactly who they are and how they will treat you if you listen closely enough. The problem in my estimation is more that most people only hear what they want to hear.
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
I agree that people who make statements, especially repeatedly, that they are this or that means they aren't.

I believe people until I don't anymore.
Ahh that is what Richey meant. See the I statements I make you can figure out pretty quick on your own. Like shiney things destract me, duh! Yeah I love people that are like I do this or that or I am so smart. Yeah if you have to point it out you are probably not as impressive as you think.
 
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ixnay on JUDGE UDYJAY!!!!! The only daytime judge I ever trusted was Judge Wapner. I think the most interesting/objective judge besides that would be Judge Mills Lane (the boxing referee judge)

Anyhow, unfortunately... I think it has come to that these days what with so many people misrepresenting themsevles and lying. So ya, I tend to not believe so much the people that make outright claims about themselves anymore, but rather find that the people that don't need to outright say it, are usually the more trustworthy ones.

It's kind of a shame it's come to this ~ but we are animals of conditioning in the end.

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It's one of the types of things investigators look for to tell if someone is lying about things, so you're spot on, Richey.

It's a little like someone saying hey I don't plan to throw food in your face. Why would they say that unless they were thinking about doing it?
 
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I believe what people tell me until they give me a reason not to.
 
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I believe what people tell me until they give me a reason not to.
Seems reasonable.
 
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