LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #21  January 7,2010, 9:00pm

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Ignore your gaydar. If it is faulty you can't trust it.

He seems sweet and he has not gone off the deep end like we thought there could have been a potential to do.

I think what seems to be a sweet man seems sincerely interested in getting to know you so I would just enjoy it and get to know him back.

Good luck.
 
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EnsignC is offline EnsignC Post #22  January 7,2010, 9:45pm
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I agree with Lizzie. Gaydars aren't reliable, even less if you can't caricature the behaviors you see as gay. If you are attracted to him then go on another date!
 
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mikeinor is offline mikeinor Post #23  January 9,2010, 4:01am
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GEF2 wrote :
UPDATE:

I went out with him tonight. He's very nice in person, seems normal. We got along, good conversation and laughs. He paid for the drinks , walked me to the train, hugged me goodbye and gave me a peck on the lips and said he had a good time and wanted to do it again. I thanked him for the drinks and said yes, we should do it again, I had a good time. Anyway, the only thing is, is that as soon as I met him, I felt a 'gay' vibe. I can't really pinpoint it, but it was immediate. I don't have good gaydar, and I really hope that I'm wrong, but its something about his mannerisms that makes me think this. I really hope its not true. When I got home, I had a long text from him telling me again that he had a really good time and that he meant it when he said that he wants to go out on another date. He's really sweet, and I do like him. I will definitely go out with him again. What does everyone think?
I think:
1) You should spend a little time and effort in getting to know him before you cast him aside as gay.
2) He probably doesn't have enough dating experience to hide his excitement in going out with you.
3) The few lousy women like Sherlock_Homes are the reason so many quality women get treated like C^@P! (meanness and callousness just spawn more meanness and callousness... enjoy your miserable life Sherlock!)
 
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Of course there are creeps out there, but if he is like me, he may have just learned some poor ways to express his attraction to you. He thinks telling you he wants to cuddle makes you feel good too.

He may be a really good guy or not. You will have to find that out. What you can do is just tell him you take things slower than some people and would appreciate it if he would ease up some with the affection which is what he thinks he is giving you.

If you really want to know what it could be look up co-dependence. He may have just learned the wrong way to show affection as a child. It is not dangerous in itself but just like anyone co-dependent people can have other flaws so just keep an eye out like you would with anyone else.

If he seems normal other than being really "affectionate" then just communicate with him that it is not comfortable for you. If he still makes you uncomfortable then walk away. Just tell him you two have different ways of expressing yourselves, and you are not compatible.

I get like that and am working on improving it but I am not a stalker, or crazy or anything. When I get hit by cupids arrow my body goes into overdrive. After awhile he should calm down. I would say 2 weeks to a month and he should stabilize. Just talk that is all. He may be a really great guy for you. You wont know unless you try.

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He sounds nervous and a little desperate, hence his return to you after your initial declination to meet. However, one never knows where love lurks so I'd give it a try. Let someone know where you're going.
 
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