Emme819 is offline Emme819 Post #1  January 6,2010, 10:47am
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I know the idea of dating heavy people has been beaten to death, but I'm curious as to actual numbers. How many men would date a woman 20lb overweight? How many 30 lbs? How many 50 or more? ANd women, same for you. I'm not looking for comments or commentary or advice to lose weight, I just want pure numbers. Are there really people out there who will date someone overweight. no matter how overweight they are?

I'll start. I am about 30lbs overweight. I will date man 50lbs overweight or however overweight he gets until he can't keep up with me.
 
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FairOne is offline FairOne Post #2  January 6,2010, 11:10am
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I'm not overweight but would consider dating a man up to 15 lbs overweight *

I've dated a guy that started out at a normal weight but over the course of our relationship gained up to 30 lbs. at one point. I did not leave him because of this nor did it lower my attraction towards him in any significant way (but I was happy when he lost the weight again).

*Can be hard to determine what 'normal' and 'overweight' actually means, but for clarity to me 'normal' weight is someone in the low to middle end of whatever range we are talking about.
 
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Confession: I wouldn't date a man who is significantly overweight. There's simply no "attraction." I can't point to specific numbers of pounds because it's too dependent on other factors, such as height and muscle mass. However, I've known overweight people of either sex who have been on plenty of dates... and have found spouses, too.

Like FairOne, I would not leave a significant other on account of his weight gain.

(I am on the lower, but still healthy, end of the weight range for my height. Being slender does not necessarily aid in one's dating success.)
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Honestly, there are women who are 50lbs over weight that I have been attracted to. My general rule of thumb is that I don't really want to date a woman who is bigger than me (and I am a big guy).
 
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When it comes to being overweight (or women's weights in general), I have a poor idea of how those numbers correspond to what people actually look like. Show me a few pictures and I can tell you what sizes work or don't for me.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #6  January 6,2010, 11:39am

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25lbs overweight is definitely acceptable....especially by international standard (which is more strict than US).

By US standard I have to lose 30lbs to be in an 'ideal' weight (said my doctor).
By International standard, I have to lose 38.2lbs.

Here's some formula just for fun (I learned this way back when I went to school overseas).

First, convert your height to centimeter.

Say your height is 172 cm (about 5'6-5'7")
Subtract 100 from that height. You'll get 72
Multiply 72 with 2.2 (pound).
You get 158.4lbs
Subtract 10% from that number.
Your 'ideal' weight should be around 142lbs.

Of course this is a very old calculation and does not take into consideration muscle mass, BMI, etc...but it's just an interesting formula..fun to do just for zhit and giggles.

Edit: Gotta always add a disclaimer to these types of post. Again...just like some of the nice women wouldn't write me off because I'm an inch short, I wouldn't write somebody off because she's five pounds heavier than my so-called 'limit'. Also depending on frames...and how some people wear their pounds. To some...that extra 30lbs happen to fall on the right places and by all means it's a plus! Just like cardguy says...a picture says 1000 words.
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PY_2 wrote :
Edit: Gotta always add a disclaimer to these types of post. Again...just like some of the nice women wouldn't write me off because I'm an inch short, I wouldn't write somebody off because she's five pounds heavier than my so-called 'limit'. Also depending on frames...and how some people wear their pounds. To some...that extra 30lbs happen to fall on the right places and by all means it's a plus! Just like cardguy says...a picture says 1000 words.
Visual is the key.

If a woman falls into the BBW category it's definitely not something I'd be interested in.

Different people carry their weight differently.

Anyone who is a normal weight according to BMI analysis, i.e. a BMI under 25, is in pretty fair shape.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #8  January 6,2010, 12:12pm

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I'm always fascinated with that label 'BBW'.....maybe some of us should start calling ourselves HCHM (Height Challenged Handsome Man)!

How many women would actually contact men on EH if we were to put that in our profile ya know? Hmmm...
 
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Attraction to me does come from personality. Could I date someone that was overweight....yes. How much depends on other factors.

There is a point when weitght would be an issue, but its usually when its excedingly overweight like those pushing 300 pounds.

Another factor is in their lifestyle. Someone can be overweight but still is active in doing things and not just hanging out on her coach at home.
 
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All my life, I never thought I would be attractive to severely overweight women. I had the mark of severely overweight to be somewhere about 50 or more pounds over.

I myself maybe 10 pounds overweight at most, but not a jock.

I found myself matched with a woman who fell into that severely overweight. My mind defaulted to "not attractive because she was over-weight". However, because I had talked to her BEFORE meeting her, I got an impression of her personality before meeting her. She had no picture on her profile. So i had no clue on who i was meeting. She on the other hand, had a picture of me. So, meeting her for the first time, her voice and her body does not match. She had this squeaky, almost child like voice, which had an attractive quality, but when i met her in person, she was...maybe 60 or 70 pounds overweight, i don't know, i'm terrible at numbers, but she was not in the "slightly overweight catagory" and easily the heaviest person i have ever dated. That night, I could have wrote her off as "not attracted to her, never will be, she's not my type, etc etc etc." Pretty much, excuses in my head to find her not attractive. I decided that night, that even though the date wasn't what i called stellar, I wanted to explore just a little further and make sure.

Well, fast forward 3 years and two months, I ended up asking her to marry me.

She has been working out like a fiend these past 6 months. She shared with me how much weight she wanted to lose and I was astounded how much heavier than me she was. She doesn't look it. At a 5 foot even body, she seems to carry her weight quite well. It is obvious that she is not slender, but at the same time, i never guessed she was that heavy. She's heavier than me at 5'7 and i'm not slender either.

To me, there is somethign about her that is very attractive to me. It goes beyond physical, or maybe its something about her that makes her physically attractive to me, even though in general, women of that body type I do not find attractive.

Attraction to me, is something more than just how someone looks. Maybe in my old age (of 37?!?!?!), I've realized that the "hot" number is doing less and less for me, while someone who has an "entire package" is what i'm looking for. The "hot" number I always see, usually has a glaring flaw that makes them unattractive to me. I believe I have found that "entire package". She did say yes.
 
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