Absolutely No Idea How to Tell if a Girl Likes Me


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marcus1982 is offline marcus1982 Post #1  January 5,2010, 1:51pm
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I must be really dumb or just completely ignorant of the human female non-verbal language. I have no idea to tell if or when a girl likes me and so my entire life I have been living in the "friend zone".

I have had friends tell me later that girl a or girl b was into me at one point, but because I didn't make a move soon enough, the girls move me into the "friend zone" and then once that happens we all know that there is no return from the treacherous "friend zone".

How in the world am I supposed to know if a girl likes me? What are the signs? What am I supposed to be looking for?
 
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Instead of waiting for her to flash a neon sign for you, if you are interested in her then ask her out. The worst that will happen is that she'll say is no thanks, the best is that you'll have a great gf. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #3  January 5,2010, 1:57pm
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Believe me it isn't just you. I used to waste my time wondering if a particular woman was interested in me or not. If I was single again and wanting to go out with a woman I wouldn't wait for her to show the obvious signs I would ask her out and see what happened. I will never let myself pass up opportunity again. Though hopefully I won't be worried about that anytime soon.
 
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I am *still* that way. About women, I can be so dense, it is surprising I don't have my own event horizon.

But like stevex and DancingFool say, *you* need to be sending some signals, and since they are *guy* signals, I am talking neon-light-flashing-goodyear-blimp-sized-visible-from-outer-space kind of signals. As in: strike up a conversation, then ask her out. What's she gonna do, say no? *grin*
 
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You'll get no help from us on this question - every man wonders, and no solution exists.

You'll just have to ask the ones you like.

Trying to be friendly in your social groups helps too.
 
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Well these arent 100%, but there are a few subsconscious hints in body language that do a fairly good job of determining intrest.

-See if she mimics your actions. Lean back in your chair or cross your arms. If she subconsciously mimics things like this than she likes you.

-When you are next to her, see if when she talks or listens to you if she turns just her head towards you or her whole body. We subconsiously try to face our body towards those we care about.

-If she stands less than 18 inches away from you without even realizing it then she has intimate feelings.

-If she likes you her pupils will dialate when she looks at you

-She will use your name in a conversation whenever possible rather than refering to you with pronouns.
 
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ltj559 wrote :
Well these arent 100%, but there are a few subsconscious hints in body language that do a fairly good job of determining intrest.

-See if she mimics your actions. Lean back in your chair or cross your arms. If she subconsciously mimics things like this than she likes you.

-When you are next to her, see if when she talks or listens to you if she turns just her head towards you or her whole body. We subconsiously try to face our body towards those we care about.

-If she stands less than 18 inches away from you without even realizing it then she has intimate feelings.

-If she likes you her pupils will dialate when she looks at you

-She will use your name in a conversation whenever possible rather than refering to you with pronouns.
Thanks, this is the kind of thing I was looking for....

It seems really hard for me to just asks girls out like you guys are suggesting. I have had little success when asking girls out. It seems I also fail to ask out the girls that like me (according to friends), thus leading me to ask how the heck men are supposed to know when women like them.
 
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ltj559 wrote :

-If she stands less than 18 inches away from you without even realizing it then she has intimate feelings.

Does this mean the gal standing behind me in line is interested in me?
 
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It's usually in the smile and eyes. More often than not if she is attracted to and by you, she will tilt her head down a bit and look up a bit shyly with a warm smile. Hopefully you can tell the difference between a warm look and cool or just plain friendly and plataonic look.

There is no 100 percent way. Different women will indicate their interest in different ways, though there is usually some tell-tale signs in the eyes and smile. If you really do not know, ask. You can also rent a bunch of romantic movies and watch the interactions.
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yazi is offline yazi Post #10  January 5,2010, 3:40pm
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ami1uwant wrote :
Does this mean the gal standing behind me in line is interested in me?
Ask her out, the worst she can do is say no (or slap you lol)
 
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