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javajava5 is offline javajava5 Post #11  January 8,2010, 1:24pm
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Dear Raw_Truth,

Sorry about the pain you experienced . . . .

Don't call her out about her email to you. You have NOT been downgraded. Her plans changed is all and it was only a tentative date for that particular night at the end of your last date to be confirmed at a later date.

She's now confirmed she can't make that date but wants to see you. Take it at face value and don't read into it.

Relax and be confident. She went out with you once and it went well - though it does seem a bit long for a first date.

There's no need to hurry and corresponding once a week is fine right now. After all, you're just still getting to know each other and it's always best to go slow to establish a firm foundation - if one is to be had.

If things work out, there will be a time for things to go faster further down the road, but for now, curb your impatience and pace yourself.

Set up another date and see how it goes . . . . Be careful to have a time limit to it. Don't give an opportunity for another to get tired of you or vice versa - especially in the beginning when things are so tenuous between people.

Drop your intensity level down some notches and don't continue to feed yourself the negative self-talk you've been doing. Stop it in its tracks and purposely think about something else that does not put yourself down to you.

Work on your self-love and self-image. It could use a boost!

Let us know how your date goes!

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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #12  January 8,2010, 2:07pm
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It sounds to me that she's probably dating at least one other guy so you better get your 'A' game on if you want to beat out the competition.
 
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javajava5 wrote :
Drop your intensity level down some notches and don't continue to feed yourself the negative self-talk you've been doing. Stop it in its tracks and purposely think about something else that does not put yourself down to you.
jj5 completely agreed with you 99% of the time on the intensity level.

This is the rare exception. The Ayn Rand/Objectivist set is a unique crowd for sure. As an objectivitst the woman almost assuredly wouldn't be turned off by a level of intensity that would freak out most women. It's almost a given amongst that crowd.

Still don't "call her" on anything OP!
 
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