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apacherose is offline apacherose Post #1  January 5,2010, 8:18am
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Do you think this guy is shy? He asked me if i had seen a certain movie. Then when i said "no i hadn't. " he said to call him if i ever wanted to watch it with him.
Before I left I told him, "we should go see it!' He said he was working the rest of that day though. I didn't exactly mean right then, but now I'm not sure how to proceed.

I'm so confused. What should I do now? Wait for him to contact me or contact him?
 
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It sounds like he's a little shy and he was testing the waters. He may or may not get up the gumption to move things forward.

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he said to call him if i ever wanted to watch it with him.
Lame! He should have just asked you to watch it with him rather than leaving it up to you.

But, he left it up to you. So, call him, and watch the movie with him. It's okay to take initiative now and then.
 
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I would love it if a female asked me out, never happens!

Why not call him and set it up.. what is the worst that could happen? I am sure he will take you up on the offer since he already said what he did.

Good luck to you!
 
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Call him.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #5  January 5,2010, 2:29pm
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Do you want to see the movie with the guy? Call him.
 
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tumbleweed is offline tumbleweed Post #6  January 5,2010, 5:24pm
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tumbleweed agrees ,, call him , call him ,,,, call him,,,CALL HIM!!
 
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hope4thehopeless is offline hope4thehopeless Post #7  January 5,2010, 6:59pm
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I'd say ask him when he has free time, when he tells you ask him if he'd want to go watch that movie with you.
 
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Wow... he definitely sounds lame lol. So I don't know that I would advise purrsuing him. HOWEVER, if you like him and want to go out wit him, I agree with the rest that you should call him and go see the movie.

Then... you can sit back and see if he calls you for the next one.

Good luck.
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I can relate!
I got "What are you doing for New Years Eve?" at the end of an email.

I replied "Have a couple invites, nothing too outstanding.. what r u doing?"

Get back that he's having friends over to chill and eat and drink.

I say that sounds mellow and fun.

Found out later all that was asking me on a date!!!

THAT WAS NEWS TO ME! I think I am like you.. I don't assume I'm invited anywhere unless it starts with "will you" and ends with a "?"!

But you could always call him and say, "hey I did want to see that movie, thanks for inviting me" He couldn't say no to that. Then once you've got that covered, try and bring up a meal to get some talking time going. If he pays for the ticket, it was definitely a date! Suggest coffee afterwards to talk.

Then see what kinds of things he asks if you might be interested in doing! Guys might rephrase asking a girl on a date because then its easier if she says no.

Girls might not want to assume they were asked because we don't want to be pushy.

But hey, someone has to come out of their comfort zone a hair in order to change their life.
 
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apacherose is offline apacherose Post #10  January 7,2010, 11:04am
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Well, I took the plunge and called him last night. We chatted for a bit and then he said something about me being, "welcome to have dinner at his house on Friday." I guess he is having people over.

Then I told him that was why I was calling, to see when he was free this weekend and if he still wanted to see that movie.

Anyway, he asked me if Saturday night was good for me and now we are set for dinner and a movie.

I was so nervous calling.
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