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Do you think online dating is easier for one gender over the other?

If so, who's getting the good end of the deal in online dating -- men, or women? Why?
 
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In my experience at around age 25, male activity outnumbered female activity by a lot.

On Match, I received one e-mail per month, increasing to about 1 per week with the best changes I was able to acheive in my profile. I shared information in detail with a female coworker (age 33, with a child); she was getting several messages per day.

This result appears typical of other people my age, in my area.

In my case, so few messages were acknowledged by the women, that I gave up.

Having made a profile for the free weekend, I am definitely getting more matches than I did a decade ago, but since there have been no age-appropriate local matches, I'd guess that has more to do with the "flexible matching" than with the increase in my age.
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In my experience, both as a dater and as a reader of dating bulletin boards, it seems that the only group of people who seem to be desirable as dates are females under age 30. Next, I would place males under age 30.

After that things seem to change again. Male success rate seems to drop off slowly after the age of 30. Female success rates drop off a cliff after the age of 40.

All the while, everyone, it seems, is still chasing after that one group, women under the age of 30.

So, the conclusion is that I can't seem to factor out age when I try to answer this question. I think it all depends on which age group we are talking about.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I am definitely getting more matches than I did a decade ago.




omg, You have been doing this for TWELVE freakin' years?


Sounds like you are channeling Bill Murray in "Groundhog Day"

How's that working for ya?
 
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Adding to the age...this question is too broad and there's always that element of whether you're attractive or not.

I actually had more success the second time around EH with dating women over 30 years old (which is also my preference, the youngest in my lower range was 28 and I was matched only with two out of 100).

I had very bad success rate when I used EH the first time around, maybe because the women in their upper 20s had more matches to pick from vs women in the 30s..I don't know.
 
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All I know is what happened for me. Over a four month stint (3 month + 1 month ext) I had almost 900 matches and no shortage of good ones to pick from. Nurses, teachers, accountants, a few physicians. (I passed on the lawyers and psychs). I was so deluged with requests to communicate it was incredibly easy to go about communicating and meeting with no expectations. But on the other hand, at one point I felt like a one-armed juggler.

But from reading the experiences here of most of the other members, it sounds like I'm the poster child for eH.
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tweet37 wrote :
But on the other hand, at one point I felt like a one-armed juggler.

I told you not to juggle those chain-saws!
 
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I have no clue. I've seen a bunch of people complaining about their matches (or lack thereof), but I can't say that I've been disappointed. I'm in OC with 4 people right now (and 4 others are in various stages), and am about to go on my second 1st date (the first had no chemistry in person).

9 people out of 67 that I still have open... 13.5%? I guess that's not so bad.
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The average age of my matches is about 41, with quite a few close to 50; so Tweet's outcome makes sense.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
The average age of my matches is about 41, with quite a few close to 50; so Tweet's outcome makes sense.
He didn't tell us how old his girlfriend is.
 
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